Catholic Brides - Pre-Cana BEFORE FOCCUS

Bobbysgirl Posted: Apr 09, 2006 06:45 PM

Catholic Brides - Pre-Cana BEFORE FOCCUS

Quick question for Past Brides and/or Brides to be....

FI and I are taking Pre-Cana thru the Diocese and FOCCUS thru my church. However something came up and we have to change the date of FOCCUS.

It's not a problem that Pre-Cana will be happening before FOCCUS, is it?

I don't think so - but I just wanted some reassurance.

Thanks!

PaddysGirl15 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 06:51 PM

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Andrea- what is FOCCUS

Bobbysgirl Posted: Apr 09, 2006 06:54 PM

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Its this extra meeting - it has a test u need to take I heard about how u feel on issues - and then u gotta compare your answers to your FI's answers. Something like that lol?

Any insite on my ? girlies?

donegal419 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 06:58 PM

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FOCCUS is not required by all parishes in the diocese. from what i hear it seems to be more popular in Suffolk parishes rather than Nassau parishes for some reason. I did hear that the results of your FOCCUS test helps gauge the issues that you should be addressing at Pre Cana and/or 'sets the stage' for your Pre Cana... but don't quote me on that.... I don't have to do the FOCCUS with my parish.

EJSD2006 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 06:58 PM

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i don't think it matters as long as both are completed prior to the wedding date...one has nothing to do with the other. the FOCCUS test is basically a compatibility test to see what issues you agree and disagree on. then you review the results with someone from the Church but nothing is brought up at Pre cana. it's 2 separate entities.

mcb916 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 07:00 PM

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I don't think it matters. They told us at Pre-Cana that we should look into doing FOCCUS, but since it's not a requirement they did not spend any time on it. I think you should be fine.

dreamworld06 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 07:50 PM

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It's no problem....we did pre cana already and don't have FOCCUS for another month.

bride2b24 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 07:52 PM

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me and FH took the FOCCUS on sat and it was a piece of cake about 150 questions....dont worry im sure itll be fine

MrsR72806 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 07:55 PM

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FH took Focus before pre cana...but don't think it matters in what order you do it.

Focus is really easy...however some of the questions are a bit odd...i.e. 'How important is a sexual relationship in your marriage?' and another 'Do you have homosexual feelings?'

FH and I laughed the whole time!

bride2b24 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 07:59 PM

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Posted by SoontobeMrsR72806

FH took Focus before pre cana...but don't think it matters in what order you do it.

Focus is really easy...however some of the questions are a bit odd...i.e. 'How important is a sexual relationship in your marriage?' and another 'Do you have homosexual feelings?'

FH and I laughed the whole time!

LOL ME TOO!!!! IS pregnancy a factor in your relatioinship......

lauren09 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 08:38 PM

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it's not a big deal. my church recommends that you take it before starting pre-cana but it's not required before. there is a couple in my pre-cana class that hasn't taken it yet and they aren't getting any problems about it.

dbleplay17 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 08:42 PM

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y church messed us up and we did precana first. we are actually done with it we finished march 19th and our FOCCUS test is this tues

it isnt a biggie at all

camerakrazie Posted: Apr 09, 2006 08:44 PM

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im not sure....we too the Foccuss back in February....we have not taken our pre-cana classes yet.....but i dont think its a problem since you are taking the precana classes through the dioceses since its different than the parish . right?

shelby34 Posted: Apr 09, 2006 08:49 PM

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We took the FOCCUS , but haven't gone to the class to discuss the results yet. We are going to do our Pre-Cana in NC where we live and they don't require it. It doesn't seem to matter.....

(we laughed through a lot of it also...the priest left us alone while we took it and we kept saying 'look at question __, haha')