Catholic marrying a non-Catholic question

Tiggeruth Posted: May 30, 2006 09:05 PM

Catholic marrying a non-Catholic question

So my FH is Catholic and we will be getting married at his church. The priest said we need to get permission to get married and its pretty standard. Does anyone know how long this usually takes? When do y ou apply for this?

Thanks.

mcb916 Posted: May 30, 2006 09:40 PM

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I am pretty sure you will have to recieve all the sacraments if you are getting married in the church and there are classes they have for adults converting to Catholicism. I would ask in his parish though since each one does things very differently.

SwissMiss06 Posted: May 30, 2006 09:48 PM

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Are you converting to Catholicism? If not, you don't need to complete the other sacraments of the church in order to have your marriage recognized by the church.
My FH is Catholic, I am Methodist and we've agreed to raise our children Catholic, but I don't want to convert to Catholicism. FH's church will recognize our marriage as long as we produce our baptismal certificates (mine is the original but FH's needs to be recently generated from the church he was baptized at), FH signed a document in my presence which outlines that we agree to raise our children Catholic, and we need to attend Pre-Cana classes before our wedding.
I'm not sure if this would be the same for the church you are marrying at, but I hope this helps!

Tiggeruth Posted: May 30, 2006 09:48 PM

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Posted by mcb916

I am pretty sure you will have to recieve all the sacraments if you are getting married in the church and there are classes they have for adults converting to Catholicism. I would ask in his parish though since each one does things very differently.

That is not what I am asking.

I need to know how far in advance you need to do this-

4. If a Catholic wants to marry a non-Catholic, how can they assure that the marriage is recognized by the Church?

In addition to meeting the criteria for a valid Catholic marriage (see question #3), the Catholic must seek permission from the local bishop to marry a non-Catholic. If the person is a non-Catholic Christian, this permission is called a 'permission to enter into a mixed marriage.' If the person is a non-Christian, the permission is called a 'dispensation from disparity of cult.' Those helping to prepare the couple for marriage can assist with the permission process.

trish71407 Posted: May 30, 2006 09:53 PM

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I am a catholic and my FH has no religion. We met with the Deacon at my church who will be marrying us. He asked us both questions privately and we agreed to raise our children catholic. I have to produce my bapt. certificate and we both have to take pre-cana. I dont know of anything else that has to be done. I would find out some more information.

spooks Posted: May 30, 2006 09:54 PM

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We had to get 2 dispensations, it took a few weeks - we went in early February I believe and got married in late April.

Tiggeruth Posted: May 30, 2006 09:59 PM

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Posted by spooks

We had to get 2 dispensations, it took a few weeks - we went in early February I believe and got married in late April.

Thanks. I know I have time, but am very happy to know that its something that takes weeks and not months.

donegal419 Posted: May 30, 2006 10:29 PM

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I just posted a thread on Catholic Marriage FAQ's... i can bump it for you... it addresses this...

Also, there is probably paperwork involved for you and your FH. i would talk to your priest more about this, he can get you the right information. it does matter if you're Christian or not Christian, (i.e. Jewish, Muslim, etc.) as there is 2 different types of dispensations.... one for a Catholic marrying another denomination of Christianity or a Catholic marrying a NON Christian.

I probably didn't address this too well, but i would consult the site i had posted on BHB as well as talking to your FH's priest.

GOOD LUCK!!!!! :)

Tiggeruth Posted: May 30, 2006 10:43 PM

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Posted by donegal419

I just posted a thread on Catholic Marriage FAQ's... i can bump it for you... it addresses this...

Also, there is probably paperwork involved for you and your FH. i would talk to your priest more about this, he can get you the right information. it does matter if you're Christian or not Christian, (i.e. Jewish, Muslim, etc.) as there is 2 different types of dispensations.... one for a Catholic marrying another denomination of Christianity or a Catholic marrying a NON Christian.

I probably didn't address this too well, but i would consult the site i had posted on BHB as well as talking to your FH's priest.

GOOD LUCK!!!!! :)

I did consult the site you posted about, all it did was mention it was someting I needed and our priest mentioned it as well. The site didn't list the time frame for getting such a dispensation, which I was looking for, wanted to make sure it wasn't something that took several months.

DanNette Posted: May 30, 2006 10:56 PM

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I am Roman Catholic and FH was baptized Protestant. We met mith my pastor and it wasn't a problem at all. He didn't say Fh had to make up sacrements, we just had to promise to baptize and raise our children catholic. (You also have to promise you are getting married with the intentions of having children). We made our arrangements during the first meeting. We have to do Pre Canae (sp?) but that is the only type of class we need to do.

klingklang77 Posted: May 31, 2006 12:09 AM

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the dispensation doesnt take long at all, from whati remember. it was just more paperwork. although, i am in a different situation as FH was baptised in an Anglican church, so that was a bit different. from what i remember the priest that did our PNI (pre-nuptial interview) did the dispensation. our PNI was at a different church then we are getting married at b/c of geographic reasons.

ask his priest, he is there to help!

Mandyin2007 Posted: May 31, 2006 09:35 AM

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Should only take a few weeks. It is so common to marry outside your religion, they make it seem like an issue, but it''s not.

Do you still need to attend pre-cana before you get married?

jeanla4c Posted: May 31, 2006 09:45 AM

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I am Catholic, DH was not...we just had an extra form for the dispensation...it didn't take long at all, it went to the diocese with all of our paperwork. We had Pre-Cana and FOCUS and everything done by November and we met for a final meeting in January (with our priest in VA who sent the paperwork to NY diocese)---it was all completed by March. They say to leave 6 weeks minimum.

Nautical bride Posted: May 31, 2006 10:42 AM

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My DH is not Catholic and to get married in my church we had to show proof of his baptism. No other papers required that I remembered. He (and I ) also had to sign something saying we intend to raise our kids Catholic.

We couldn't have a full mass (communion) though because he isn't Catholic.

We also had to do pre-cana but every couple has to do that for a Catholic wedding.

MrsR72806 Posted: May 31, 2006 10:46 AM

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Posted by trish71407

I am a catholic and my FH has no religion. We met with the Deacon at my church who will be marrying us. He asked us both questions privately and we agreed to raise our children catholic. I have to produce my bapt. certificate and we both have to take pre-cana. I dont know of anything else that has to be done. I would find out some more information.

we had to do the same...my FH is Lutheran...so we just had to give our bapt papers and agree that the children would be raised catholic (he doesn't care)...blah blah...I guess each parish is different...you or your FH should call the church and find out specifically what they require.

Lissy3077 Posted: May 31, 2006 08:16 PM

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My FH is a catholic and i am a Protestant. When we went to his parish, all the priest told us was that i needed to bring in my baptism certificate, and promise to bring up our children catholic. we also have to take pre-cana classes..