I was wondering, does the officiant have to ask the guest of the wedding during the ceremony, 'if anyone feels this couple should not be joined, speak now or forever hold your peace.' I really hate the very idea of it. Is it required by law or can I insist it not be said? Please let me know.
JNMWineBride
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I'm pretty sure I've been to weddings where they didn't say that... I hadn't given it much thought - want to ask my Deacon about that too.
stephanielyse
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I don't think they have to say it. In fact, I can't remember it ever being said at any wedding I've been at. Talk to your officiant, but I really think there just has to be an exchange of 'I do's, witnesses and a license.
nygirl77
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I asked our officiant about this and she said it's rare that it's said anymore.
October Bliss
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It is definitely NOT required by law.
stephanief
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They did not say that at mine so , no , it is not necessary
pigs222seal
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It is up to the bride and groom....it is not a law. We are not doing this.
ShortBride
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The rabbi didn't say it at ours!
Naunie
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I'm pretty sure this was just an old tradition, to prevent incestual marriage. Maybe they still do it in West Virginia
Seriously- Catholic ceremonies I beleive cover this by announcing your union for a week or so befor ethe wedding, so that members of the community can protest before hand.
June12007bride
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You should tak to your officiant I know that there are many different way that this can be worded without being so abrasive.
mrsh2b
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I haven't hear that said at any of my friends weddings. All of my friends have gotten married at Catholic churches so I don't know if that makes a difference.
