Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

One of my single bridesmaid told me that she might be pregnant and won't be able to be in my bridal party...but she's not sure until she goes to the clinic. What is wrong with me? That would make 5 bridesmaids that I lost already...is this normal? I was telling my FI that losing 5 girls is not common. What would you say to her? I would still like her to be in my wedding party but I don't want to make her feel uncomfortable. Please..some words of encouragement would be so nice right now...I was crying yesterday the whole day thinking that I'm jinxed.

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

i'm sorry! i wish i could tell you something to make you feel better. maybe she will find out that she isn't pregnant...okay maybe not, but i'm trying to give you a ray of hope...hang in there, everything will be okay.

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

Hey Don't worry look at the brighter side of things... I am getting married at Leonards too.

AND HONEY!!! YOU ARE GETTING MARRIED.!!!!!!!!

How many bridesmaid, do you have so far....Not including this recent one giving you a hard time?

I only have 3, and I am only sure about 1 out of the 3--she told me yes. I don't care if I have to walk down that aisle by my damn self... I AM GETTING MARRIED!!!!!!!

GOOD LUCK

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

If she were pregnant, how far into the pregnancy would she be? My FSIL is due 2-3 weeks BEFORE our wedding (fittings should be fun!!) so if she goes late she could still be pregnant (or have just had the baby). When she found out she thought we were going to force her out of our bridal party (we didn't) and she wouldn't back out.
If it's an issue of $$, can you afford to offer to pay for her dress (or part of it)? I would be honest and talk to her about it and tell her that this is one of the most important times in your life and she's important to you and you really want her to be a part of it with you. Also, depending on how far along she is, maybe she could just buy a dress a week or two before the wedding in the same color as the other girls. Hope this helps- good luck!!

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

No ..you know how women are.... weddings are emotional and if they are single worse if they are over 30 they cannot handle it... some can better than others.. to be frank it is better that they are up front with you than for them to participate and ruin your day as I have heard those stories several times and the girl shows her bad sad througout and the friendship is over after the wedding ... your wedding will still be beautiful.... it is not just you....

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

I just realized that you are getting married at leaonards ..what room are you using .. that is one of the places being highly considered by my cousin?

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

wow I luv it that is exactly how I feel

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

You are NOT jinxed!

Don't feel bad ... though I can understand.

So many of my female close friends and family members are either pregnant, new moms, otherwise committed.. that its only going to me a MOH and one bridesmaid for me. IT does make things a lot easier to coordinate, but I'll miss having these girls in my WP

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

You are not jinxed. Look at it this way - you have all these people you love and care about who feel the same way about you that they said yes in the first place. Most of the people I would have asked I didn't because I know they don't have the money or time for it. It's just the reality of the situation - life is busy, especially as you get older and have families. I'm having a small bridal party but it will be beautiful. And most of important of all - you're getting married! That's all that matters.

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

How far along would she be for the wedding? Maybe its just a sign to keep the party size down.

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

Does she think she will be too far along to be a bridesmaid at your wedding? If she just found out she is pregnant, she should be okay. She can wear a maternity BM gown. I am sure they make them. I am sorry about the trouble you are having though!

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

I've been to lots of wedding where a BM was pregnant. I think there is probably another reason ($ maybe?)

Re: Chance that I lost another bridesmaid...that makes 5 already. Am I jinxed?

nycbride- I was just going to say the same thing. Its expensive for us to have them in bp ( gifts, flowers, rehersal dinners.. etc) but it is also very expensive for them to be in our bp ( dress,shoes,bridal showers, gifts, etc) and esp. with a new baby on the way she might just be trying to watch her money. I know I became that way when I was pregnant. Sometimes its better that way.. and cheaper for you! as long as she will be there thats all that matters.