Children ceremony??

Mmnnng Posted: Jul 05, 2007 08:58 AM

Children ceremony??

Has anyone had children from a previous relationship in thier wedding??? Did you do a stepparent ceremony?? What did you do??

I am so confused and there is so little time and nothing is accomplished!!!

Nina_m74 Posted: Jul 05, 2007 09:12 AM

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One of my co-workers had an extra ceremony - he and his wife both had children from a previous marriage and they all evchanged rings as a symbol of the families joining.

My sister's X-husband did the same thing when he remarried, my nephews hate the rings, they feel uncomfortable wearing them and only wear them when they are with their father.

FH has a son and we will not be doing an additional ceremony, when his mother married she didn't do it either.

rsolano222 Posted: Jul 05, 2007 06:56 PM

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When my mother married my stepfather, they incorporated myself and my two stepsisters by having us say our 'I do's' to the marriage. It was really cute b/c we were each asked by the minister whether or not we were in agreement with the marriage and of course we all said I do.

jtgarsik Posted: Jul 05, 2007 08:07 PM

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i JUST went to a wedding last weeked and the groom did the cutest thing! The brides little guy was in the wedding(rb) and immediately following the B&G's ring ceremony, the pastors announced 'now jamal has a special ring presentation' and called up the his future stepchild.......he then got down on one knee with a ring for him and promised to not only love & take care of his 'mommy' but that he also promises to love & take care of him like he was his own.
It was the SWEETEST thing EVER. there seriously was not a dry eye in the house.

aliciahelene Posted: Jul 06, 2007 07:18 AM

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We are including our children in our ceremony...my fiances son is walking him down and is also his groomsmen and will stand with him, my two sons are wlking me down and are also my bridesmaids...we are including them in our vows and they will read the dove release poems..I did find a family unity candle..but its an outdoor wedding and Im not sure how that woudl work out.

rojerono Posted: Jul 06, 2007 07:54 AM

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We had 2 children together before we got married.. so they aren't step children - but we did do a special little something to acknowledge ourselves as a family of 4 rather than a family of 2.

My sons walked me down the aisle and 'gave me' to Rob. We also did a 'hand ceremony'. We all joined hands and the celebrant said a little prayer of family that went like this:

Boys please hold Mommy and Daddy's hands
so that you may see the gift you are to them.

Friends and Family – please reach out and take the hands of the persons next to you.

These are the hands of your family,
strong and vibrant with love that are holding yours on
your wedding day.
These are the hands that will work along side yours,
as together you all build your future, as you laugh and
cry, as you share your innermost secrets and dreams.

Boys, these are the hands of your mother and father
These are the hands that will comfort you in illness
and wipe tears of sorrow and joy from your eyes.
These are the hands that will tenderly lift your chin
to look into each your eyes and are filled completely with
their overwhelming love for you

Friends, witness how the love that we have connects each of us as tangibly as your hands are connecting you at this very moment.

If you allow your hands to support this family
When they struggle and congratulate them when they achieve their dreams
Then that love will always return to you.

It was great.

aliciahelene Posted: Jul 06, 2007 08:20 AM

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wow..I love that poem!!!! I may incorporate that into my ceremony. Thank you so much. I love it!

VadersBride2006 Posted: Jul 06, 2007 09:10 AM

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We have two children of our own and I have a son from a previous relationship. We are having them be part of the ceremony as our ringbearers, but are not doing a special ceremony for them.

SylvieB Posted: Jul 06, 2007 09:43 AM

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We are doing the Family Medallion Ceremony.

aprilv Posted: Jul 06, 2007 09:49 AM

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we are doing a ceremony that Rev. April@ Church of Ancient Ways helped us to create. I have 2 from a past marriage-he has one from a past relationship. They are getting the family medallion necklaces and they are called up in the ceremony. We incorporated them from the beginning. We are paying for wedd. ourselves so we put the kids on the invites, etc. It really is a day for us all to become the family that we've been living by since we moved in together. We did have a talk with each about how they have 2 families now-1 with us and 1 with their dad/mom respectively. They are all excited about it b/c they feel like its their day too. Good Luck!

kellybean Posted: Jul 06, 2007 09:52 AM

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we are having the unity candle ceremony and having them light it with us ~

Mmnnng Posted: Jul 06, 2007 10:50 AM

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Posted by aliciahelene

We are including our children in our ceremony...my fiances son is walking him down and is also his groomsmen and will stand with him, my two sons are wlking me down and are also my bridesmaids...we are including them in our vows and they will read the dove release poems..I did find a family unity candle..but its an outdoor wedding and Im not sure how that woudl work out.

I wanted a candle too but I was nervous about the wind we are outdoors too! We are using a sand thing, where we each have different color sand and pour them together to symbolize the blending of our family! I thought it was cute!

Mmnnng Posted: Jul 06, 2007 10:52 AM

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Posted by aprilv

we are doing a ceremony that Rev. April@ Church of Ancient Ways helped us to create. I have 2 from a past marriage-he has one from a past relationship. They are getting the family medallion necklaces and they are called up in the ceremony. We incorporated them from the beginning. We are paying for wedd. ourselves so we put the kids on the invites, etc. It really is a day for us all to become the family that we've been living by since we moved in together. We did have a talk with each about how they have 2 families now-1 with us and 1 with their dad/mom respectively. They are all excited about it b/c they feel like its their day too. Good Luck!

I am hoping to use Rev. April too! She is getting back to me on the date...seems so sweet! We are paying ourselves too and included the children on the invites as well! My FH has been the only father they've know since they are 2 and we've lived together since then too!

empressdani Posted: Jul 06, 2007 11:55 AM

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i'm glad you posted this i was wondering how to recognize FH's daughter in the ceremony, I was really concerned b/c her mother is also invited and how to do include this with out making her feel as though i'm trying to 'take over'.

Thanks for the ideas!

NovemberBride07 Posted: Jul 06, 2007 12:57 PM

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Posted by jtgarsik

i JUST went to a wedding last weeked and the groom did the cutest thing! The brides little guy was in the wedding(rb) and immediately following the B&G's ring ceremony, the pastors announced 'now jamal has a special ring presentation' and called up the his future stepchild.......he then got down on one knee with a ring for him and promised to not only love & take care of his 'mommy' but that he also promises to love & take care of him like he was his own.
It was the SWEETEST thing EVER. there seriously was not a dry eye in the house.

AWW! I just got teary eyed reading that! so sweet!