Choosing your battles
I have two MOHs, a sister and best friend. My best friend is doing all of the work. She's organizing the batchelorette party, and she put together the decor/flowers for my shower. My mom and best friend were at the shower early to set everything up. My mom said she tried to get my sister to come and help but my sister said she had to feed her son dinner, who is 8. Of course, her husband could have done this or she could have done this earlier. I'm sure these situations happen all of the time. If you were unhappy with a family/bridal party member not putting any effort into your wedding, did you talk to them about it? And if you did, did any good come out of it?
Also, my other sister is nuts. I'm actually wondering if she has a personality disorder. She says that I deeply hurt her because I didn't call her back once three years ago. She also thinks once I (in her words) 'Got a man' I wasn't interested in having a relationship with her anymore. This is completely false, and she has no facts to back it up. She actually hasn't called me back numerous times, she was a complete ******* when I asked her to be in my bridal party. She didn't call me back at all, and then after I called her again and politely asked about it, she said she was too busy to meet up to talk and I would have to come to her. She has no concept of how she treats other people, I'm wondering if she's even dilusional. Sadly, I've accepted that she's just unreasonable and cannot work things out at the moment, and also that she only brings negativity into my life when she is around. I wish her well and hope someday it will change.
I don't want to not invite her to my wedding though, I think it's not the right thing to do. And I want to leave the door open in hopes for the future. However, she's such an *******. At my shower I did all the appropriate things. Said hello to her, thanked her for her gift, and at the end thanked her for coming. For some reason she responded really sarcastically making a face 'OH WELL THANKS FOR HAVING ME!' What the hell dude.
My parents can't talk to her, she doesn't get along with them. So what do I do with miss crazy at the wedding, sit her on the other end of the room and just avoid even going over or thanking her for coming? I don't want to deal with her crap anymore. Thanks.
Also, my other sister is nuts. I'm actually wondering if she has a personality disorder. She says that I deeply hurt her because I didn't call her back once three years ago. She also thinks once I (in her words) 'Got a man' I wasn't interested in having a relationship with her anymore. This is completely false, and she has no facts to back it up. She actually hasn't called me back numerous times, she was a complete ******* when I asked her to be in my bridal party. She didn't call me back at all, and then after I called her again and politely asked about it, she said she was too busy to meet up to talk and I would have to come to her. She has no concept of how she treats other people, I'm wondering if she's even dilusional. Sadly, I've accepted that she's just unreasonable and cannot work things out at the moment, and also that she only brings negativity into my life when she is around. I wish her well and hope someday it will change.
I don't want to not invite her to my wedding though, I think it's not the right thing to do. And I want to leave the door open in hopes for the future. However, she's such an *******. At my shower I did all the appropriate things. Said hello to her, thanked her for her gift, and at the end thanked her for coming. For some reason she responded really sarcastically making a face 'OH WELL THANKS FOR HAVING ME!' What the hell dude.
My parents can't talk to her, she doesn't get along with them. So what do I do with miss crazy at the wedding, sit her on the other end of the room and just avoid even going over or thanking her for coming? I don't want to deal with her crap anymore. Thanks.
