Christmas

Everyone seems so excited for Christmas...

I really wish I was.. I've been meaning to vent on this for while but just really couldnt come to terms with it.

This year, my parents got divorced, the house I grew up in was sold to the most awful people in the world (not to mention my parents were so awful to each other that my sister and I were left to clean out the house we grew up in), and I lost my grandfather, and my uncle. All of this on top of being in medical school and planning a wedding.

I know the wedding is exciting, and so is Christmas, but I just can't get into the spirit... I just feel broken.

Sorry to put this on all of you right before xmas, I just honestly don't have anyone else to talk to.

I am so sorry for all that has happened to you..I hope 2011 is a much better year for you with the wedding and starting your own memories and family

im soo sorry to hear about all of this.. no one should have to be put into any situation like that with their parents.. i hope that 2011 will be a much better year for you especially with the wedding!!!:

so sorry to hear about all of these things

this is the perfect time to look at all the positives in your life and really embrace them: friends and FH, etc

Keep your head up!

I'm so sorry, it sounds like you had a really tough year. I can't blame you for feeling down I hope 2011 is a million and one times better for you!!!!

Ugh, I am so sorry to hear all of that. If possible, try to concentrate on FH, your upcoming marriage and the wonderful life the two of you will have.

i'm so sorry to hear all of that

it sounds so much like the past 2 years i've had - my parents divorced, they sold the house i grew up in, and can't even be civil to each other. my sister and i were left to clean out the attic this past july...while my parents screamed at each other on the front lawn. plus it was hard to think about the fact that i was making the same commitment that my parents were getting ready to break. my grandma passed away last september, too. it always seems like everything is thrown at you at once.

this christmas i'm actually doing a lot better than last year. things have settled down a little bit, and we're all finding a new 'normal' - just know that it gets better. it's a lot to handle at once, but you'll get through it! whenever i was feeling down about everything, i would try to focus on the fact that at least i had a teammate to lean on - having FH helped a lot, but it's a really tough thing to go through regardless. if you need anyone to talk to, FM me.

it was a rough year for me too and i'm so not into it at all! not into the wedding..not into anything.

you went through a lot. BIG hugs!

Im so sorry to hear all that you are going thru. Im sure this wont help much but I always remind myself that everything happens for a reason... Things will always work themeslves out the way they are meant to. I know its hard but try to stay positive and be happy for the things you have in your life right now.. like your FH and that you are getting married! <3

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Posted by DCgirl82

everything happens for a reason... Things will always work themeslves out the way they are meant to.

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i completely agree, michelle. it's so hard to stay focused on that when things are going wrong, but it does provide some comfort.

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Posted by Pacie

i feel the same way - with my dad passing i just want christmas and new years to pass a quickly and quietly as possible

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I'm so sorry that you are dealing with this.

My parents divorced not too long ago and sold my childhood home as well. It has been so hard for my brother and I to get use to the holidays as they are now. Christmas was always such an amazing time for us growing up, so this big of a change really set us back.

The one thing that helped me was starting my own traditions in my home. It has helped a lot. Now for Christmas I have Christmas Eve at my home with my moms side of the family, and I have Christmas Day with my Dads. It makes things a lot more tolerable.

I can't say it gets easier, but it gets there. Just talk when you need to, and cry when you need to.

Merry Christmas Sweets.

I am sooo sorry hon. It is definitely a tough time of year when you are dealing with loss and turmoil.

Pacie, who also replied, and I have talked about our fathers and losing them during this special time in our lives...and I know most of you know that my father just suddenly fell ill wirth a blod clot and now he is in a moderate coma. My mom and I are devastated and when we sit with him every day we just hope that he comes out of it.

It is sad, the worst feeling in the world and know that there are many of us on this board that understand how are you are feeling. I feel the same way Christmas just doesn't have the magic that it once held for me...it was slapped with reality...

I say all of this to say that we are here with you and we will be with you and you go through this. Reach out to us whenever you need because we will be a listening ear. Love you!

I am actually in tears reading all of your heart felt posts and messages.

Thank you so much for all of the support girls... I honestly feel a lot stronger.



I'm off to go Christmas shopping with FH- I've really been putting it off and he is making it a lot more fun than I thought- yay for FH!! hehe..

Well I am def going to make it to the next GTG so I can meet all of you wonderful ladies in person.

Have a great holiday!!!

im so sorry to hear all that you went through. I hope 2011 is a better year for you. and you're not alone about not getting into the holiday spirit after all the stress of this year i cant wait till next. Praying for a better year for you

so sorry to hear that but I think you have every right to feel the way you do. hopefully you are doing something nice for yourself for the holidays! Just take some time to relax and enjoy!