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Church dilemma

chicky724 Posted:

Church dilemma

Ok this could get long – feel free to skip.

When we booked our reception hall, we were originally going to have the ceremony there too. I had a few questions about the differences between getting married there vs a church, so I asked a woman I work with used to be a nun.

She asked us why we weren’t getting married in a church and I didn’t want her to think I was a bad Catholic so I just said that my church was booked that day. She said if we wanted to maybe she could pull some strings at the church she works at (near our reception site) and we could get married there.

Long story short – FH decided he wanted to get married in a church, so we booked my church first. After thinking about it for a while, we realized it was really far away for everyone, so I asked the woman I work with if she could check into her church. She came back and told me it was fine, but that we’d need to get a letter from my church saying it was ok to get married somewhere else (since she still thought our church was booked that day).

Soooo now I don’t know what to do. I’m afraid to ask my church for a letter bc they’re going to be like “Ummm I thought you were getting married here?” But I would much rather get married at the other church bc it’s so much more convenient.

AHHH THIS IS WHY YOU SHOULDN’T LIE!!!! Even though I didn’t do anything intentionally. So dumb.
Jeannemachine Posted:

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Okay...we all tell little white lies...no judgement here. Your Parish shouldn't have a problem with giving you a letter...they're usually just happy you're getting married in a church!!!

michesq Posted:

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Posted by Jeannemachine

Okay...we all tell little white lies...no judgement here. Your Parish shouldn't have a problem with giving you a letter...they're usually just happy you're getting married in a church!!!



very true! ask for the letter
flairforfashion Posted:

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Posted by Jeannemachine

Okay...we all tell little white lies...no judgement here. Your Parish shouldn't have a problem with giving you a letter...they're usually just happy you're getting married in a church!!!



I agree. Just ask. I am not getting married at my Parish and it's not going to be an issue.
chicky724 Posted:

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Yeah... I think I'm going to make FH be the one to call them since he's the one who jumped the gun and booked my church earlier than I thought.
patricia8251 Posted:

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I too have to ask for a letter I'm told that they give you no problem. If the church asks, tell them you are getting married in another church more convenient for you. No worries, just ask.

DomesticDeeva Posted:

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They shouldn't have a problem giving you the letter..if they ask, you can always say you decided to pick another church that was more convenient for the guests. GL!

chicky724 Posted:

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Posted by belle127

They shouldn't have a problem giving you the letter..if they ask, you can always say you decided to pick another church that was more convenient for the guests. GL!



Thanks... I don't think I would be so worried if we hadn't already scheduled with my church - I'm afraid now they might be mad at me!

But it's not like I go to church anyway so I guess it doesn't matter so much.

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