What does everyone think? I know it is a personal preference and based on how religious your family is or how you always envisioned your wedding but we really are having a hard time deciding between the two options.
I'm Lutheran and FH is Catholic...We originally thought of doing the ceremony at the RH since all of his family and most of my friends are flying in and won't have cars to be driving around long island. Plus our wedding is in the winter and could be icky weather so it might be nice to have everything in one place. Also I'm assuming more people would attend the ceremony if it is 1/2 hr before the cocktail hour.
But, I'm still toying with having it at my church even though it is 25-30 min away. I had always envisioned getting married in church although i'm quite flexible and open to having it at the RH. Plus our pastor who i loved has retired and no longer is there. FH doesn't seem to really care, although I know his family who are Puerto Rican catholic might frown upon it being at the RH.
What to do?? (Thanks for reading all this in advance!)
MrsGRod09
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I would ask FH and see what he thinks about having the ceremony at the RH. If you really want a church ceremony and his family won't be having cars then could you maybe supply them with a shuttle to get to the church and then the RH?
JenBill61210
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it is your personal preference and what is important to you. Although FH and I are not religious, we feel that being married in a church is important so we opted for a church ceremony, but we are not doing a full mass. Our families would also be a bit upset if we did not get married in the church as well, but ultimately we made the decision to get married in the church because it is what we both wanted.
allsmiles830
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If the religion allows, I'm always all for the ceremony being held in the Church. I think it's more intimate and more spiritual... My ceremony is in a church and our venue is 25-30 minutes away...and we even have 4 hours in between... Sometimes you have to do what makes you happy hun... and if that was your vision, I say go for it so you won't regret it.
MottsGirl
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I am in pretty much the same situation. Do what makes you both happy and don't worry about what others are going to say.
sandybeaches115
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Posted by MottsGirl
I am in pretty much the same situation. Do what makes you both happy and don't worry about what others are going to say.
yeah its a hard decision...are you leaning one way or another?
jme78
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If you have your heart set on a church, then by all means get married there.
But it will be a LOT easier for your guests if you get married at the RH - like you said, weather, etc can play a factor.
We are getting married at our RH - for many reasons, one being that I am not religious at all, the other being guest convenience. Majority of our friends live in NYC, so for them to traipse all over the Island was not my ideal. Also I wanted to personally avoid a 'gap' between ceremony and reception. My mom was a little upset, but she got over it, and its not her wedding.
firenice1434
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i am having a similar dilemma. I always thought we would have it in a church, but now we are considering RH. I am Christina FH is catholic (some of his dfamily is very religious). There are pros and cons to both places...so its hard to choose! Think about what you and FH want more, even if its just a little bit, and just do that! you cant worry about others, do what you want!
M_Berk-Glenn
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My vote is for the RH if possible have both of your officants do the ceremoy (but I know some religions dont consider you married unless it happens in the church)
