Combined bacherlor/bachelorette party advice

So FH and I decided this is what we are going to do. We have been married for YEARS but never had a big wedding. Just a small civil ceremony. So neither one of us are 'bachelors'

So we just want to have a nice night out, with our bridal parties TOGETHER so we can celebrate with each other. Of course the best man and groomsmen can't understand why they can't take him out to have some bare *** rub up on him.....In one word, EWW!I don't personally care what they think, but I would like some of your opinions please.

That's the thing, he originally wanted just a night out with guys at a bar. But the groomsmen have 'other ideas'.
I have some issues with the whole strip club thing after some 'distasteful' things done at my brothers and unfortunately you can't avoid a lot of it.....so we decided no naked people for either of us....

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Posted by Jenyc21

That's the thing, he originally wanted just a night out with guys at a bar. But the groomsmen have 'other ideas'.
I have some issues with the whole strip club thing after some 'distasteful' things done at my brothers and unfortunately you can't avoid a lot of it.....so we decided no naked people for either of us....

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then tell his GM's to stfu... if its his decision then who cares if they are upset

if that's what you both want, do it.

personally I;m going to a spa w my MOH lol. exciting right?

We're doing a joint one! And believe it or not we're going to a strip club in the city No girls will be grinding tho! Unless it's me on him

I think this decision is completely up to you and him! Of course his gms are gunna have a problem with this because they want a reason to get a lap dance! Tell them they can do whatever they want for their bachelor parties but the only grinding your man wants is from you!

Love it! I think I will suggest that :) And if any b***hes even THOUGHT of grinding him, id have to bust some limbs

i totally, 110% agree with you!

just thinking of FH going to a strip club where woman can be all over him to make a dollar makes my blood boil! he knows this and would never go to one because he knows how i feel.

we decided to do a joint party together so the discussion of who goes where would not come up and cause tension.

we will be going to dinner in NYC with a limo with the whole BP and some friends and then to a comedy club and a bar afterwards.

FH saked if he could take come of the GM to a bar on a different night to have a couple of drinks at the local bar. i told him sure but i don't know if this will even happen since its the same people going to the joint party and they are all married with kids and may not be able to go.

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Posted by allornil

if that's what you both want, do it.

personally I;m going to a spa w my MOH lol. exciting right?

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hahah FH prob will be jealous we're getting massages.

he'll prob go to a bar w his cousins and uncles and brother, maybe a friend or 2. he's really laid back. I doubt they'd go to a strip club. They'll prob end up at Hooters lol.

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Posted by SoonToBeMrsONeill

We're doing a joint one! And believe it or not we're going to a strip club in the city No girls will be grinding tho! Unless it's me on him

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Thats an awesome idea!! And the girls will prob be more occupied with you than with him anyway lol. If we were to have had one it woulda been a joint party in Vegas But if he wants his own night without nudity then his boys should respect that and find other things to do. Not all bachelor parties need to require naked chicks.

Not all bachelor parties have to end with nakedness, lol but unfortunately if the guys just TAKE him out for the night, not tell him where they are going, FH knows it and I Know it, that if it's a strip club he isn't going to say 'sorry guys I can;t go in'
He even admitted that. So just to keep happy for ALL and when I say ALL I mean me and FH lol
we are doing a combined party.

Cause unfortunately, It's not FH that I don't trust, it's his groomsmen, that if they told me it was raining out, I would have to look.

We're doing a joint too but haven't decided what. Maybe a weekend in the poconos.

I am not a fan of strip clubs...been to one in las vegas and one of the guys with us disapeared with a dancer and came back with hickeys YUCK!

Still, I believe that the ones who want to behave will behave themselves. FH's best man is his older brother who is the most 'boring person in the world' according to FH.

Seriously, he is such a nice guy who is never into partying and his groomsmen (including FH) took him to a strip club for his bachelor party and FBIL didn't even drink. He just sat there waiting to go home.

So not all guys get out of hand...there is hope! lol

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Posted by Jenyc21

Not all bachelor parties have to end with nakedness, lol but unfortunately if the guys just TAKE him out for the night, not tell him where they are going, FH knows it and I Know it, that if it's a strip club he isn't going to say 'sorry guys I can;t go in'
He even admitted that. So just to keep happy for ALL and when I say ALL I mean me and FH lol
we are doing a combined party.

Cause unfortunately, It's not FH that I don't trust, it's his groomsmen, that if they told me it was raining out, I would have to look.

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i agree and my FH said the same thing to me, that if they show up to one he isn't going to say oh my FW doesn't want me to go to a strip club and look like a fool in front of them.
at the end of the day, this can sause such an unecessary fight and tension for the actual couple themselves that its no one else's business what we do or don't want to do for the Bachelor/ette party. so i say, go with what works and makes you both feel comfortable.