Creative suggestions and am I being a biotch??

Shamee Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:20 PM

Creative suggestions and am I being a biotch??

Ok here's the deal...

Several weeks ago a friend of mine suggested we get a huge group of our friends together and rent a cabin/chalet upstate for Labor Day weekend. Sounds fun, right? I guess what I had envisioned for the weekend would be very different from reality because he calls this weekend and gave me the details. Now, I don't want to go for the reasons listed:

1.) There's something like fourteen couples going and there are five bedrooms so it's 1st come, 1st serve on the beds at $270 per person. Now I'm not cheap, but to spend three days on a random couch (if available) or sleep on the floor for that amount seems steep. I know I would never be one of the 1st come group because I wouldn't be getting there until Saturday when everyone else has Friday off.

2.) Five out of the fourteen have children which they would also be bringing but not kicking in extra for. So sleeping wherever with a bunch of possibly 10 children does not sound like a good time - sorry. Not only that, we would have to restrict our activities for most of the weekend (watch what we say, conversation content, drinking, etc.).

3.) The couple who are organizing this wants everyone to equally kick in for food - not bring your own. So the family who brings three kids will be charged the same as the couple by themselves. Doesn't sound quite fair there either.

4.) Not sure of what activities are even up there, although they've tried to sell the whole weekend like it's a resort or something.

5.) Parking is at a premium and I might have to leave my brand new van several miles down the road at a random parking lot.

So basically I don't want to go because it sounds like a possible trainwreck and I know if I have a bad time I'll hold a level of resentment against my friends. How do I gracefully get out of this without making it an issue of the kids. It's not that I don't like kids, but 10 kids in one five bedroom house with 14 adults - sleeping in a strange place with nothing to do sounds awful. Suggestions please!!

Imagin916 Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:23 PM

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I wouldnt go! Go somewhere with DH and enjoy the weekend. What you described sounds more like a day camp than a vacation to me!

eternityawaits Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:31 PM

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I wouldn't go either. You guys could go away on your own for less $$$$ than that!! You can always just tell them that you have a family thing you have to do (it IS a holiday weekend, LOTS of people already have plans)

Tell them you have a wedding to go to!!

butterfly20 Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:35 PM

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i wouldnt go.. that is crazy.. if you dont have kids why pay for them and be subjected to them for a whole weekend.. and why pay that much money if you might not even get a bed

**maybe you could find a place or hotel near them where you can stay, you can go out and do activities with them but wont have to pay for the place and food

mlp924 Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:36 PM

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I wouldn't go! You can get your own place for $270 and not deal with 10 kids, no beds, shared food and no parking! Runnnnnnnnn

jenny2penny Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:37 PM

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I wouldn't go either. Is this idea definite? That price is crazy, I'd rather stay in Montaulk/NJ or something, or group camping BYO food and cook on own fire.

swags1016 Posted: Jul 21, 2003 07:55 PM

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Sharon I wouldn't go either!!

How are ya?

Shamee Posted: Jul 21, 2003 08:07 PM

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I'm good - had an awesome weekend. But this whole trip idea has me STRESSED because they're trying to make me the bad guy because I don't want to deal with kids on my vacation. Sorry but I work two **** jobs and every second of spare time is precious to me. There's alot of infants going - so can you imagine the screaming and the mess? NO WAY!

swags1016 Posted: Jul 21, 2003 08:10 PM

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Tell them I won't let you go! I will be the bad guy I don't mind!!!

Don't let them get to you!! Look how many of us would not want to go. They are looking for someone who won't take up a lot of room to help defray the cost!

ChristineC68 Posted: Jul 21, 2003 10:08 PM

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That does not sound like a pleasant weekend at all (I am being kind here). Personally I would rather be the bad guy here then end up freaking out at everyone while I am there.

I would just explain that the weekend is not what you had in mind and that you would prefer to stay home.

wenndypoo Posted: Jul 22, 2003 12:37 AM

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Eeeeek!
Sounds pretty hellacious if you ask me!
I agree with Christine, just be honest.

Elizabeth Posted: Jul 22, 2003 12:51 AM

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That sounds like a great weekend - if you are one of the first to get there and you have kids. Sounds like an unfair set up to me.

Even if I didn't have a child, my days of sleeping on a random couch (especially at a price comparable to those who are sleeping in the nice king size beds) are over. Dont subject yourself to a weekend of misery.

I don't see how you're the bad guy by not being into this arrangement. I'm shocked if they can't understand where you are coming from if you back out.

Sasha96 Posted: Jul 22, 2003 08:40 AM

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I wouldn't go to this one. Maybe another trip with a different set up. You can tell them the real reasons, politely, for not wanting to go or you can tell them some sort of family function came up.

OctBride05 Posted: Jul 22, 2003 08:42 AM

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that does not sound like a fun weekend, and to spend $270 to sleep on the floor or couch is ridiculous. i would not go.

anna Posted: Jul 22, 2003 08:47 AM

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OMG soundds like disaster !!!!
14 adults or 14 couples? Well either way it sounds WAYYY Too over crowded. Not enough 'space' for everyone, and by that I mean privacy even, will your bags lets say, be sprawled out in the living room if theres no closet space for you?

If you DO want to spend the weekend away and you DO like these friends maybe you and hubby can find a less expensive (IM SURE YOU CAN) hotel to stay at down the road and meet them for activities.. Tell them that price is a little high for you, but not to worry you can stay in the area and you can still spend the weekend with them. I would do that just so you have your space from all that 'rukkus'. LOL. I love children but it just sounds WAYYY overcrowded. I can just hear all the kids crying, all on wacked out sleeping patterns, no one can sleep because of all the people.

I suggest you either
A)Stay somewhere else.
B) dont go !

Let us know what you decide !

I Love your stories !!!

acp1101 Posted: Jul 22, 2003 09:00 AM

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I was in the same situation.

It doesn't sound like they are depending on your share to get the house so it shouldn't be a problem for them, but I would say something came up for that weekend and you won't be able to make it.

cw0904 Posted: Jul 22, 2003 09:04 AM

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Sounds like a weekend at the hamptons with kids!! EEK!!! A college weekend scene comes to mind. I wouldn't go. I can't take 3 kids in one house for 4 hours, let alone 5+ for an entire weekend!