Cutting down the guest list

sept2703 Posted: Jan 22, 2003 11:48 AM

Cutting down the guest list

We have to cut down our list. And I need some help.

We have 283 on the list and the place can hold a max of 240.
What was the percentage of people that did not attend?
We don't have many out of towners so I think most people should be able to attend.
Any suggestions on how to deal with this?? FMIL wants all cousins invited with dates which I don't agree with. How do I bring this up tactfully? what to do? We already eliminated co-workers and not-close friends.

Misty Posted: Jan 22, 2003 11:49 AM

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The average is 20% No.....

Ronnie&Theresa Posted: Jan 22, 2003 11:53 AM

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I have 398 and that was cut..

We have family comming in from Sicily and Florida and Vegas..

I mean WHO CAn you cut..

I am having NOt one child.. But that isn't alot..

p&a91203 Posted: Jan 22, 2003 11:55 AM

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I'm in the exact same boat. My place only holds 240, too! Don't know what I am going to do.

curly2003 Posted: Jan 22, 2003 12:21 PM

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I have a similar dillemma. They say 20% of your guest don't come but I really don't believe it's that high. I say figure like 10% no shows and pray, LOL!!!

Really, if you HAVE to cut back I say NO '& Guests'. There is no tacful way of doing it you just don't write it on the invite and if they ask just explain it politely. Good luck!!!

SeptemberBride03 Posted: Jan 22, 2003 12:26 PM

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I'd say you have to prepare that everyone you invite may come - don't rely on statistics of no-shows. If you have to cut the list to fit the room, start with people you're not as close to or that you don't think you'll still keep in touch with in 5 years from now. Good Luck!

sept2703 Posted: Jan 23, 2003 09:59 AM

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Thanks for the suggestions. I think we will assume about 10% and hope for the best.

NovemberSue Posted: Jan 23, 2003 10:02 AM

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We had 30% who couldn't attend.We knew that because a lot of them were out of the state.

shepppy Posted: Jan 23, 2003 10:05 AM

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I would say tell your family & his that they each need to cut X number of people or put them on a b list. just tell them thats how it has to be & let them decide who to cut.

bride082003 Posted: Jan 23, 2003 10:38 AM

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how about people from work? Typically they are cut first. Or put on the 'B' list -

Have an A and B list - send out the invites early and if you get a lot of no responses, and have room, send invites to some folks on the B list.

For me, the first people to go were people I work with, unfortunately, I would have loved to have them there but just can't afford it.