My parents have been divorced since I was a baby. Though my dad has always been around in my life, I don't feel that he deserves to walk me down the aisle. My mom has always been there for me and I want to give her the privilege of giving me away.
Has anyone else had their dad at the wedding, but not walk them down? Did you dance with him? How did you tell him or did you not tell him.
Sorry if this is a repost, I searched but couldn't find anything.
TIA
Nicki_Rini
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either have both of them walk you down... ive seen this alot and then they just go sit down or like me im not having either 1 im having my brother walk me down....
Sweetpea130000
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Posted by Nicki_Rini
either have both of them walk you down... ive seen this alot and then they just go sit down or like me im not having either 1 im having my brother walk me down....
If I have both of them, World War 3 might happen in the church.
Bride22BB
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I'm thinking about having my son walk me down and give me away to my FH, my son will be eight years old and plus my FH is not his dad...
Happybride2005
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If I have both of them, World War 3 might happen in the church.
You would think for one day they would put the differences on the side. Do you have an uncle or brother that could walk you down.
Sweetpea130000
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Posted by Sweetpea130000
If I have both of them, World War 3 might happen in the church.
You would think for one day they would put the differences on the side. Do you have an uncle or brother that could walk you down.
I am just hoping that they can put them aside for the reception, I think putting them on either sides of me is too close for comfort.
No brother and my uncles have daughters and I don't want to take away from their days which is why I think my mom is the best bet, it's just how to tell my dad.
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Hey Hunny! My situation is similar to your's except my mom remarried and I absolutely adore him! So I am having my step father and my mother give me away. My father wasn't even invited up until 2 weeks ago but I decided to invite him and he will sit at the church in a pew up front.
I might dance with him but it would be difficult and I will feel like a hypopcrite. So I am not sure yet.
Charly
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Ok I'm in the same boat and have just about driven myself nuts trying to make the right decision.
I don't think my father deserves to have the honor, soley b/c he's pretty much been an absentee father, but I love his family very much and I don't want to disrespect them.
I spoke to my Dad and told him its his choice - he can accept that he and my mom will both walk me down or it will be just my brother. I did gently explain that I'm 'letting' him do this out of respect only and its truly not how I would have it.
He chose to share the honor with my mother. He stated that although he's made a lot of mistakes and has not been the best father, this would mean the world to him. (of course my mom is thrilled that he doesn't get the spotlight - parents drive me crazy)
ETS: I am dancing with him to 'Way You Look Tonight' by Frank Sintra - I've asked the band to keep it short!
Good luck! The best advice I got...make the decision you can live with (esp. on that special day)
David'sbride
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My dad can't walk my down the aisle because he had a stroke seven years ago and walks very trepedaciously (sp?). I'm 34 so I'll be walking down the aisle by myself... actually want it that way.
I would hope they could put their differences aside for one day so you can have it the way you want it.
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My dad and mom have also been divorced since I was a young girl. My uncle is walking me down the isle and I will also dance with my uncle. I didn't tell my dad yet and don't know how. Up until this year I hadn't seen him that much but this year he has been around alot. I still don't know how I'm gonna tell him.
justshir
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although my parents arent' divorced, my dad and i just was never 'that' close. we joke sometimes but that's about it. my dad and i just alwyas had that 'macho' attitude to never show that much emotion toward each other. my ceremony was on the bklyn bridge and you're only allowed to have 20 or so ppl with you so we gathered around each other. no walking down any aisle and stuff. but during preparing the reception i had asked him if he wanted the father-daughter dance... we both didn't want it at all. which was no big deal. i was more like PHEW!
and if you feel more comfortable walking down the aisle with your mom then let it be that. i've seen that before also and the dad understood why. heck! i've been to a wed before where the bride had 2 guys to choose from. her dad and stepdad. she chose her stepdad becasuae clearly she felt closer to him.
