DAD question
ok this is going to be kinda long but i need you girls help or thoughts
i havent seen my dad in several years like 5 or 6 years, i would say we are kinda both to blame but its more of his. My dad last i known his was a great guy but unfornately got into drinking and doing drugs heavily, his current gf at the time tried to help him along with me and my sister, but after months and months he relapsed 2 times, i was in hs and thought i had better things to do them deal with him, well after the several relapses his then gf gave up and couldnt handle it anymore, ( which i cant blame her) her them went throught several girlfriends and finally as a last straw my aunt who lives in rhode isalnd took him in to help me, during this time i started to back away bc after seeing him in detoxic was more then i could handle and told him that when you are ready for help please let me know, we are here. Well we went to my aunts house and from what we hear has done very well ( we dont really talk to his side of the family and even thought they live in the same town its very hard to get any info from them, i know this sounds dumb, but my dads mom was mad my dad married my mom bc she was italian0
anyway several yrs after past and i recebntly got married and as from what i know so has he, not once has he ever tired to contact us and i dont know if its bc he doesnt want anything to do with us or if he is embrassed or if it has anything to with my mom, he still owes my mom 12,000 in child support, my sister and i tell her just to stop we no longer need the money i am 25 and my sister is 30 just call it a lost buts she bitter to what he did to her and wont 9 my dad cheated on my mom several times, but he was NEVER a bad dad)
well i am getting older and think i want to try and contact him but am afraid to get hurt, i was thinking about sending a letter and a few pictures of my wedding to my grandmas in hope she will give it to him
should i do this or no
i havent seen my dad in several years like 5 or 6 years, i would say we are kinda both to blame but its more of his. My dad last i known his was a great guy but unfornately got into drinking and doing drugs heavily, his current gf at the time tried to help him along with me and my sister, but after months and months he relapsed 2 times, i was in hs and thought i had better things to do them deal with him, well after the several relapses his then gf gave up and couldnt handle it anymore, ( which i cant blame her) her them went throught several girlfriends and finally as a last straw my aunt who lives in rhode isalnd took him in to help me, during this time i started to back away bc after seeing him in detoxic was more then i could handle and told him that when you are ready for help please let me know, we are here. Well we went to my aunts house and from what we hear has done very well ( we dont really talk to his side of the family and even thought they live in the same town its very hard to get any info from them, i know this sounds dumb, but my dads mom was mad my dad married my mom bc she was italian0
anyway several yrs after past and i recebntly got married and as from what i know so has he, not once has he ever tired to contact us and i dont know if its bc he doesnt want anything to do with us or if he is embrassed or if it has anything to with my mom, he still owes my mom 12,000 in child support, my sister and i tell her just to stop we no longer need the money i am 25 and my sister is 30 just call it a lost buts she bitter to what he did to her and wont 9 my dad cheated on my mom several times, but he was NEVER a bad dad)
well i am getting older and think i want to try and contact him but am afraid to get hurt, i was thinking about sending a letter and a few pictures of my wedding to my grandmas in hope she will give it to him
should i do this or no
