decisions! sorry long

Too many decisions for me lately. It just makes me doubt myself and second guess myself.

I mentioned this before to you girls. FH and I are thinking about moving into the upstairs apt in my parents house for like a year to save for a house. I'm 90% sure we are going to do this, but I just get worried and have doubts.
FH is completely for it. It's rent free

Pros
-we can save at least $2000 a month prob more
-easier for FH to pay off his debt
-backyard
-washer/driver
-might be the only way we really can save and afford a house
-it will be nice to live under the same roof as my sister again and my family dog


cons
-a lot smaller space. our apt now is double maybe triple what this apt is
-part of me feels like im moving backwards since i moved out of my mom's 3 years ago. FH is telling me we are doing this for our future so it's not really moving backwards
- a little worried if my mom will be too much in my business (FH isn't worried about this)
-I like the fact that I have been living on my own for all these years

I also feel bad because my mom currently has a tenet. She is giving the tenet a few months to get out because she is laid off now (should be getting her job back soon-electric union), but I feel bad.

I guess I'm just thinking out loud. Thoughts? I dont know why I'm so worried about this decision. FH thinks it makes the most sense logically and for our future. ughhhh

Go for it.
I live with FH family and although it is a little annoying sometimes. Think about all the money you save. And Getting out of debt is priceless in the long term.
A little bit of sacrifice will be so worth it in the long run.
Plus, you get to live with family. You will have to sit down with your parents and discuss the privacy issue.
Good luck!

oh man if I had this opportunity I would've jumped on it.
Def not moving backwards, I completely agree w/ur FH totally for ur future.
dont worry, its not like u will be living in next door rooms, u gonna get ur own separate place.

DO IT!!!!!

the cons arent that serious. if anything, tell the tenant to take the place ur renting now..and live there. do a switch?

IF it's truly a separate space that will maintain your privacy as much as possible, like not sharing kitchens, bathrooms or entrances I'd do it. I'd need to feel like it was my own space, not like living in my parents house.

If that's the case, I'd jump on it. It's a great way to save money if it's not at the expense of your independence and privacy. It won't be for long, Iwish I had an opportunity like that for us to get us on our feet!

Thanks girls. Good idea, Barb. I just dont think the tenet wants to move to Queens. We will be moving from Queens to Massapequa.

It is a separate apt...own kitchen, bathroom, living room,bedroom...just very small. It's an upstairs apt.

The entrance is the same (front of house), but there is a door that leads to my parents' house and stairs that lead up and a door to the apt upstairs.

We're going to do it. We will move August 1 most likely..or earlier if the tenet can find something. ahhhh im gonna miss Queens

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Posted by jackieee



The entrance is the same (front of house), but there is a door that leads to my parents' house and stairs that lead up and a door to the apt upstairs.

We're going to do it. We will move August 1 most likely..or earlier if the tenet can find something. ahhhh im gonna miss Queens

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You are??!?!? I dream every day of the day I can move out of this god forsaken borough.

That's how my first apartment was set up when I moved for school... so it was very private.
You can do it, and I think you'll be happy you did. Good luck! I think you're making a good decisions.

go for it. we live in the basement of FH grandparents house. and i like it. we are always going up stairs for dinner, we do things for each other. and i think it has made us closer to them. and they enjoy the company.


just make sure your parents know that u guys need your space and you are a married couple now. im sure everything will be fine.

I say go for it. FH wants us to move into his parents' house for a while to save money, but I can't bring myself to do it bc 1) it's not an apartment, it's their HOUSE and 2) his younger brothers live there too and they would drive me NUTS... but I do think it's a really good idea and I think we might end up doing it soon!!!

Good luck!!!

We are doing the same thing

I am worried a little and so is FH but we know how much we will save living with my parents [in an apartment] so we are closing our eyes and doing it

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Posted by MrandMrsP

We are doing the same thing

I am worried a little and so is FH but we know how much we will save living with my parents [in an apartment] so we are closing our eyes and doing it

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I guess it's normal to be worried, but you are right all the saving we can do is soooooo worth it. good luck!!!!!!


and yes Collen, living without a washer/drier suckssssss. it will be amazing to have one downstairs (share with my parents, but still!)

We've discussed it more, and we are going to do it!!!!!!

I say move in withthe parents.A friend of mine did this and it is working out well for them, as far as saving a lot of money for a house quickly. If I had the opportunity I would do it, but it is not an option for me...