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DanaMZ Posted: Jan 23, 2006 08:03 PM

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clw924 Posted: Jan 23, 2006 08:14 PM

Re: SHOWER DILEMMA...LONG

I think your mom was trying to be nice, without realizing the costs. i wouldn't be upset with her. Your FH should really speak to the bridal party b/c if anything the mom should pay the majority anyway, like half and the bridal party should pick up the rest. that really is the expectation when they agree to be a BM. My mom is deceased and I believe my MOH and BM (cousins) will pay for the majority along with their mom, my aunt and then FSIL will help too - so I think...this stuff could get so messy..

DanaMZ Posted: Jan 23, 2006 08:24 PM

Re: SHOWER DILEMMA...LONG

BlueTulip Posted: Jan 23, 2006 09:17 PM

Re: SHOWER DILEMMA...LONG

At this point, I think etiquette is thrown out the window because your mom offered to pay (traditionally, moms are not supposed to throw a shower-though it is often done these days). Given the situation, with everyone fighting, the fact that your BP and your dad are aware of the changed circumstances but still didn't offer up any money- I would probably have FH give your mom money (if you can afford to) and not let her know that you know. I think your mom was trying to do a really nice thing, but just was not aware of the costs of these things.