deleted

JennyAPH Posted: Jan 28, 2009 09:34 AM

deleted

Deleted...

I feel better already. Thanks girls

chicky724 Posted: Jan 28, 2009 09:35 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

QUIA Posted: Jan 28, 2009 09:51 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

you have FM!

evewedsjc Posted: Jan 28, 2009 09:55 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

I KNOW WE ALL FEEL LIKE THIS AT SOME POINT OR ANOTHER...AND SOMETIMES PEOPLE S U C K...THEY DON'T KNOW HOW THEY ARE MAKING US FEEL AND WILL ONLY UNDERSTAND WHEN IT'S THEIR TURN...

loveDan Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:00 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

im so sorry you r going through this! it really becomes 2 much pressure.. i wish you happiness .. i told fh if it became to much pressure we were gonna pick up and alope and come home and say suprise were married! then have a backyard bbq in the summer! my mom would be upset but i would hope she would relize it was what we wanted!

egem523 Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:01 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

Ok this how I feel. I know where you are coming from wanting a small wedding. I feel exactly the same way and FH was the one also that wanted the wedding. Now yes it is exciting for you but I learned from this experience that everyone even my own family are not going to feel the same way. Some of them are not going to be their for me like I expected them too or show some excitement. Am I going to let that ruin my day and planning HELL NO so what. We all want that level of excitement and reaction from the important people in our lives but it does always happen that way. My wedding planning has allowed me to see the true colors of people and even family. But I am not going to let it ruin my day or planning process. Just always keep in mind that you are creating a special day for you and FH that is the most important thing!!!

alli3131 Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:17 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

I know how you feel. From day one I wanted to get married in Vegas and then just have a celebration at home. I have never enjoyed the wedding planning. You have some time so maybe just take a month off from planning....do nothing but things you enjoy for that month. It will still leave you plenty of time to get it all done.

And as far as the issues with the bridal party...maybe hav a serious talk to those girls who can't even bother to order the dress. I have to say I expect nothing from my girls except to order the dress and show up..That way I will never be disappointed.

NikkiR515 Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:22 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

I know exactly how you feel... I have been so super stressed about money and I am at the point where I want to elope! It just really S U C K S that I worked my butt off for 7 years saving and I will literally have to use every penny for ONE DAY! I wish I could be more encouraging but when it comes to money I am going through the same thing myself lately..

Try not to let your BMs affect you too much...Some people just don't understand how their actions can hurt others. Just try to think about the positives.. You are marrying the love of your life and it WILL be beautiful! It might be hectic and stressful and EXPENSIVE now but I am sure once the day comes you wont have any regrets about it! If you ever need to talk, feel free to FM me..

JennyAPH Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:29 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

Thank you girls. Everything you said really helps. I know I have to stay positive, and In the end I know that no matter what happens or who is happy for me etc.. it only matters about me and FH. I guess I needed a kick in the a$$. I just needed to get it all out.. my poor registry is a disaster cause I was running through BBB yesterday scanning anything and everything to make myself feel better..

MrsList09 Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:35 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

I understand what you're going through with your BMs. I don't have anyone to help me either. When my sister got married, we did everything together and I was really involved but with my sister, you might as well be asking her to study for the SATs for all she wants to be involved.

But don't let your BP ruin your wedding. Send them a letter kicking them out of your BP and invite your friends. They obviously have no concern for you so why should you care about their feelings? You'll feel SO much better once you have some support from your frineds. I'm sure your friends will understand why you haven't asked them already and be SO excited to be part of your wedding. Since dresses aren't ordered, it's not too late!

MrsGarcia Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:38 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

I know exactly how you feel... My MOH is M.I.A.. I haven't talked to 2 of my BM's since august... FH's sister has been good and so has one of my other BM's with atleast giving me their opinin on stuff.. But helping wise, well thats a complete loss... I completely feel your pain on this.. Hopefully sooner rather then later they will do their part..

What gets me is when FSIL was getting married it seemed like all of them did things together and everyone got along.. That makes me so jealous..

littlepixie12 Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:42 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

oh sweetie! we all feel like this at some point.. I know how you feel about the BM.. I have a few of those too ... One acutally refused to take the train to RK Bridal, like pitched a fit, so I ended up ordering the dress for her and I will probably pick it up and schelp it on the trian with me to bring it home too .. its depressing and sad that your BMs behave this way.. but I think Ive been to nice, from now on Im going to be a bridezilla

JennyAPH Posted: Jan 28, 2009 10:44 AM

Re: I think I am losing it..and don't know what to do!!!

Posted by littlepixie12

from now on Im going to be a bridezilla

I said this to FH last night.. He was nervous!

I am sorry everyone is dealing with similiar issues on this!! At least we all have eachother to help us deal with it and get through it.