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this is pretty messed up but its not your family i feel like it wouldn't be your place to say anything. if it was me, i would say something to FH about it, but i wouldn't tell his family directly. let him do that if he feels he needs to
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Posted by Moonmist09
this is pretty messed up but its not your family i feel like it wouldn't be your place to say anything. if it was me, i would say something to FH about it, but i wouldn't tell his family directly. let him do that if he feels he needs to
I agree. If it's not your family you can't say anything.
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Posted by Moonmist09
this is pretty messed up but its not your family i feel like it wouldn't be your place to say anything. if it was me, i would say something to FH about it, but i wouldn't tell his family directly. let him do that if he feels he needs to
I agree. If it's not your family you can't say anything.
I agree... and if he does say anyting i wouldnt mention anything about expecting money for the wedding either...
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FH has to be the one to ask his family if they are going to contribute anything.
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This is a tough situation. I know you wanna say something but I think that may cause more of a problem. I have a similar situation with my father - he hasn't given me a bday gift since my 18th bday but my older brother gets something every year! FH tells me it bothers him but I wouldn't want him to say anything because it would make the little relationship I have with my dad even worse. HTH
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That is messed up, but I'd talk to your FH about saying something. They'll get over a little argument with him because it's his family and they have roots. They might hold it against you long term.
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Are they strapped for cash? I understand that they have given money to FBIL a few years ago but their funds could've changed in the last few years - especially if FBIl got a book on his last birthday as opposed to cash.
Alot of older people have taken a huge hit to their retirement funds in this economy and it may be something that FIL's may be dealing with.
Another thing is that they simply don't think there is a need to give money to their two grown sons. My FH doesn't get money from his parents and niether does his brother. They may take us out to eat but that's about it. They are also not helping with the wedding but they help us so much with our house (not financially, but hard labor!) so we are greatful anyway.
Every family dynamic is different and I agree with the other girls when they say you shouldn't try to speak up about this to them. Especially if they are struggling financially, it would not look good for you to ask about money.
If FH confronts them, I would def leave money out of it and ask why they don't acknowlege his birthday and it would mean alot to him if they did.
Alot of older people have taken a huge hit to their retirement funds in this economy and it may be something that FIL's may be dealing with.
Another thing is that they simply don't think there is a need to give money to their two grown sons. My FH doesn't get money from his parents and niether does his brother. They may take us out to eat but that's about it. They are also not helping with the wedding but they help us so much with our house (not financially, but hard labor!) so we are greatful anyway.
Every family dynamic is different and I agree with the other girls when they say you shouldn't try to speak up about this to them. Especially if they are struggling financially, it would not look good for you to ask about money.
If FH confronts them, I would def leave money out of it and ask why they don't acknowlege his birthday and it would mean alot to him if they did.
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I know that I shouldn't be the one to do it, but I feel like in a couple of months this is going to be my family too. And it really sux when one brother was given money and we weren't. It's just a kick in the teeth. We are paying for the wedding ourselves, FBIL isn't paying for their wedding, his future inlaws are.
In the end I know I won't say anything but, damage is being done to our relationship with them, and I don't know if it can be saved.
In the end I know I won't say anything but, damage is being done to our relationship with them, and I don't know if it can be saved.
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ITA its def. something that FH has to speak about if he wants to
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I agree w/ the other girls.......its not ur family so you shouldn't say anything. Your FH is the one that should say something.
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That Succckkksss!!!
But It is true chica...
Your FH is the one who has to Speak...
It is not ur fam....
The same thing would happen if UR fam woudl do this to ... U should Speak to them... Not him...
But It is true chica...
Your FH is the one who has to Speak...
It is not ur fam....
The same thing would happen if UR fam woudl do this to ... U should Speak to them... Not him...
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You ladies are right.
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I def wouldnt say anything becasue it its not your place.. You can takl to fh abut it but as far as his fam if anyone should be saying anything to anyone it should be him.. But does it even bother him? if it doesnt then dont even worry about it becasue he will never say anything
