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THANKS SO MUCH GIRLS!

Honestly sweetie, I think you have to have a serious talk with him. Let him know that he’s your fiancé, not your dad and he can help make decisions, but the last say will be yours.

Did you decide on what he's going to wear for the wedding? Tell him you'd like it to be a surprise on both sides. That way he can concentrate on what he wants to wear and you can do the same.

Though, DH insisted on purchasing my DOJ for me and while I was a little nervous that it wouldn't match properly (he had never seen my dress!) he did a great job and it was such a wonderful surprise the morning of the wedding.

First of all, I am sorry you are going through this. You shouldn't have to be subjected or spoken to like that infront of your or his family. Second, I don't know why he is so involved or think he has that much say in what you are wearing or not wearing at the wedding. If he wants to be involved in the wedding part itself, that is totally fine since it is both of your days as well. but, for him to be THIS involved in your dress, shoes, DOJ, etc is kind of too much and a bit weird. It is very nice he wants to buy you DOJ but giving it to you on the day of is not fair. What if you don't like it or it doesnt' go with your veil, tiara, etc???? If he wants to be nice and buy you DOJ, he can go with you and you can pick out what YOU like........then he can send it to you the morning of, atleast this way you know you will like it and not hate it and get stuck with either a) no DOJ or b) DOJ that YOU don't like....

as far as the shoes, I am not sure why he cares about that either?

I would sit down and have a talk with him and let him know as far as wedding planning is concerned, he is free to help and voice opinions but as far as you and your attire, that really is supposed to be a rsurprise and he shouldlet you pick all of that out regardless his opinion.

ETA: if you give him an idea of DOJ you may like, maybe he can go with that but for him to just pick out DOJ and giving it to you the morning of is a little nerve wracking on whether you will like it or not.

thanks girls... we did have a talk about it and he's more of the 'whatever' type, where he'll 'whatever' me to drop it, then pick it up again at a later date...

we're both very controlling, but he knows i give in before he does to avoid big fights.

ok, I'm deleting so he doesn't stalk me and get mad for talking about it.

thanks again!

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Posted by StaceyWill

Honestly sweetie, I think you have to have a serious talk with him. Let him know that he’s your fiancé, not your dad and he can help make decisions, but the last say will be yours.

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SO WELL SAID! ITA!