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I can't believe your FMIL treats you that way.

As for the rooms... I would block the Red Roof Inn for your OOT's, who wouldn't appreciate that you are trying to save them money?

I would also try to pay for as much as I could, so she doesn't have any opportunity to throw anything back at you guys.

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Posted by Pookiesangel



Keep in mind her recent comments are in addition to other comments in the past, like 'well if I were in charge of this wedding, it would have been done already' and 'the only reason my parents are concerned about spending $$$ on me is because I am fat, ie 'they are embarrassed'

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OK, FIRST OF ALL..you have worked sooo hard and you are looking DAMN good girl...so DONT be listening to any of that cr@p!!!!!

You're parents are NOT embarassed by you..they wouldn't do all these things for you if this were true....

I truley beleive you are correct in the fact that they she has insecurities adn needs to 'out-do' your parents...but dont bother..and byt the way....you CAN block rooms in two different hotels/inns..and let teh guest have the option of blowing money out of their pockets...or not.

i knwo how you feel..i LOVE my FIL's to death...but they act as idf they have alll this money that tehy DO NOT and try to do better than their kids in laws..ALL: THE TIME.....so frustrating!!

Hang in there!! You are BEAUTIFUL adn you will have a BEAUTIFUL wedding!!!

ugh! she would drive me nuts!! why do so many people forget that weddings aren't about the 'show' and outdoing other people's weddings?!? not everyone wants a $50,000 wedding.... i know for ours, we didn't want anything too extravagent or overdone- i'm sure a couple people thought our wedding was 'cheap'- but it was exactly what we wanted, everyone had fun, and nobodys in debt
she should just be happy that her son has found someone he loves and wants to spend his life with. especially if most of his family is coming from ohio... they do wedding SOO much differently there, that they'll be impressed with anything you have i know most of my DHs family came from western PA and they were so impressed that the DJ actually introduced us when we came in to the reception!
and don't worry about the hotel-- i would still book the rooms at the Red Roof like you were going to... give people a choice- and when they find out how much each hotel is and they all book at the red roof inn.... that will speak volumes to her.
good luck!!! :

Quick question? Your MIL blocked 10 rooms at the GCH........will she be paying for the guests that night as well??

If so, I'd say let her spend the $$$ and if she wants to out do it even more, have her pay for brunch the next morning........its DELICIOUS!!!

First, I am sorry you’re dealing with this.

Second, why is your FMIL blocking rooms? IMO, that’s is the job of the bride and groom. Did you ask for help? I would be furious if someone took it upon themselves to block rooms in an expensive hotel for my wedding.

The nerve of this woman!!! Im not even going to begin to tell you how wrong she is on SO MANY levels.
I will tell you this. This is YOUR wedding. And like my friend ladyprincess says, 'Your day, Your way'!!!!!!!
Block off the rooms at the red roof inn. At least your guests will have a choice of where they want to stay.
If you still want her to hold the rehearsal dinner at the GCH, then take her up on it. But if you feel uncomfortable with it, then by all means, do it somewhere else.
If you ever need to talk, FM me!

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Posted by dleeny

First, I am sorry you’re dealing with this.

Second, why is your FMIL blocking rooms? IMO, that’s is the job of the bride and groom. Did you ask for help? I would be furious if someone took it upon themselves to block rooms in an expensive hotel for my wedding.

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No, she took it upon herself, since it's 'her family' atleast that was her explaination

and regarding my parents being embarrassed, I know more than anyone they are not and they are very proud of me, actually the way my parents see it, they paid alot of money to send my brother and sister to Ivy league schools ( I went to a state school, before my parents figured out how financial aid really works..lol) so this is their gift to me, for a long time my parents said they wouldnt pay for anyone's wedding since back in 1970 they paid for their own wedding.

I am def going to block the rooms at the red roof inn, thanks as always ladies for your support, I was having a delayed reaction last night and needed to vent.. Hugs Ladies!!