Depressed and Exhausted and ....

Freaking out Having a really bad day/night just need to get it off my chest. DH had a problem at his job last summer and got put on nights with a pay reduction, just as we started getting it together financially and he is going back to making the money he was making they let him go over something stupid(think it was union garbage). Okay so after a month of being out of work which omg put us in such a hole he found another job and was told that he would be making just under $10,000 from his old job at his original salary. Well can I tell you that this job is such bull$hit that he's not even coming close. He brought home last week $160 and this week $260(this is after his childsupport comes out)which even if it was included would be crap. Im only working one day a week because Im in nursing school starting my clinicals in 2weeks. Of course we just at that point again that everything was coming even and now Im back in the hole. Found out that my tax returns(which was going to pay a big chunk of the wedding)probably wont be near what it was last year because of this damn job he has. My kids are driving nuts. My daughter is getting ready for college(had her when I was younger)and just not following through with anything and just making more work for me to do that I just dont have time to do. If Im not in school Im at work. My one son is just out of control and constantly in trouble for acting like a clown and not knowing when enough is enough(got a call from the dean he's suspended again for two days) DH is just doing the dumbest things that are costing us more and more money. I try to be patient because he is working two jobs but what's the point if the money never makes it to the bank . My family is out of their minds, DH's family is the same so my heart is pounding out of my chest. STRESSSSSSSSSSSS!!! Sorry I just had to get it out somewhere and the only people around me are the one's who are driving me insane so I dont think they would appreciate me complaining about them to them. Im really thinking about getting info. on taking a personal loan(small)that I could pay back after the wedding just to get through the wedding. Thanks for letting me let go

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Posted by LuckyMe

Freaking out Having a really bad day/night just need to get it off my chest. DH had a problem at his job last summer and got put on nights with a pay reduction, just as we started getting it together financially and he is going back to making the money he was making they let him go over something stupid(think it was union garbage). Okay so after a month of being out of work which omg put us in such a hole he found another job and was told that he would be making just under $10,000 from his old job at his original salary. Well can I tell you that this job is such bull$hit that he's not even coming close. He brought home last week $160 and this week $260(this is after his childsupport comes out)which even if it was included would be crap. Im only working one day a week because Im in nursing school starting my clinicals in 2weeks. Of course we just at that point again that everything was coming even and now Im back in the hole. Found out that my tax returns(which was going to pay a big chunk of the wedding)probably wont be near what it was last year because of this damn job he has. My kids are driving nuts. My daughter is getting ready for college(had her when I was younger)and just not following through with anything and just making more work for me to do that I just dont have time to do. If Im not in school Im at work. My one son is just out of control and constantly in trouble for acting like a clown and not knowing when enough is enough(got a call from the dean he's suspended again for two days) DH is just doing the dumbest things that are costing us more and more money. I try to be patient because he is working two jobs but what's the point if the money never makes it to the bank . My family is out of their minds, DH's family is the same so my heart is pounding out of my chest. STRESSSSSSSSSSSS!!! Sorry I just had to get it out somewhere and the only people around me are the one's who are driving me insane so I dont think they would appreciate me complaining about them to them. Im really thinking about getting info. on taking a personal loan(small)that I could pay back after the wedding just to get through the wedding. Thanks for letting me let go

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sending FM

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Posted by Ms Sawney

i am sorry you are having all these problems

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Thanks guys. Im just so wiped out right now with all this craziness. I know it will pass but I just dont know what kind of shape I'll be in when it does. It wouldnt be so bad if we had support about the wedding from our families but his side he says when he told them and asked what they were interested in knowing about our plans they told him NOTHING they would get in touch with me which they never did. My family goes on and on about how broke they are but are telling my sister about all these vacation plans they are interested in making to Italy or going on a cruise. So I dont feel like if we fall short that we would get any help. Dont get me wrong it's a long story as to why DH's family doesnt care for me(not my fault in my opinion)but lately with the bills they have helped and they were great at the holidays but same attitude about the wedding. Knowing this is just another thing added on the pile.
Thanks for listening though.

So sorry to hear you are going through this. I can't say I know what you are going though since I do not have kids and am not in your situation but it sounds tough .... i try to remember 'that which does not kill me makes me stronger' but sometimes it's really, really hard.

Sending hugs ..

i'm sorry to hear about all ur stresses - lots of hugs love & prayer

my gramma always says 'This too shall pass'..and it will! u just have to stick it out! we're all here for u

That is so frustrating. I hope everything comes together in the end for you. Keep us posted and vent if you need to...!

You girls really are the best. I wish my friends and family were as supportive as all of you. I woke up this morning ready to cancel everything but realize how much money we will be out and how many contracts I would have to pay off and it's no better. I know deep down it will pass it's really hard when I look at the calendar and realize there isnt much time left to come up with a plan.

I'm so sorry you are goign thru all this, sonds like you have too many balls in the air. Me personally if I was in a hole I wouldn't take a loan for the wedding if I was in your situation. I would either elope of have a much smaller wedding. But if none of those are options, I would do everything else that is left to do bare bones. Your future and kids are way more important than one day.
I am sorry if this seems preachy, I just wanted to say what I truly felt after reading your post, I do hope everything irons itself out, Good Luck

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Posted by diva7531

I'm so sorry you are goign thru all this, sonds like you have too many balls in the air. Me personally if I was in a hole I wouldn't take a loan for the wedding if I was in your situation. I would either elope of have a much smaller wedding. But if none of those are options, I would do everything else that is left to do bare bones. Your future and kids are way more important than one day.
I am sorry if this seems preachy, I just wanted to say what I truly felt after reading your post, I do hope everything irons itself out, Good Luck

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Thanks for your thoughts! I dont find them preachy just honest. We eloped 3yrs ago and this was something we were doing for us and up until last summer everything was fine, actually up until Sept. this year everything was okay. In my life there are always too many balls in the air and never a good time to do anything unfortunetly. See come June things are going to even itself out again that's how I know this will pass but again it's getting to June.

stay strong. we are always here to listen, whatever you need to say!