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Did I ever mention how much i LOVE my job?

FutureMrsCat050412 Posted:

Did I ever mention how much i LOVE my job?

I've needed to vent all day....here it comes!!!!!!

I was looking for a job in early 2009, my sister's husband's Aunt was looking to hire someone at her job & wound up hiring me. It worked out great for both of us & I even made more $$$. She is the office manager at the drs office.....

Fast forward to now....
I hate working with women and wherever I go I am somehow hated for being so good at what I do, or who I am, or any other reason good or bad that you can think of. The girl I sit next to everyday thinks she is god's gift. She is the biggest attention seeker I have ever met in my life. If someone says they like something of mine she'll either say 'I have it' or 'what about me'. No joke. She thinks she's hot S*** bc she owns a pair of Ed Hardy shoes, but her favorite store to shop in is Joyce Leslie...catch my drift? So shes with her man for 8 years with a 4 yr old kid, complains to her man everyday that she wants to get married and he blows her off. (she tells us this stuff). Finally In Feb 2012 he pops the question. Now we are 8 months from when she got engaged and she is not allowed to talk about planning a wedding to him, he gets mad. So here comes ME and I get engaged in May of 2010. The minute we get engaged is the minute we start planning. Now she really hates me! I talked about weddings a few times to my other coworkers and she says 'can we talk about something else other than weddings' so I stopped talking about it. So thats the beginning of this hell job....

For starters there are no rules at this job. Feel free to go on the internet all day long, talk on your cellphone whenever you'd like at your desk and if you want to show up 20 minutes late everyday no big deal. OK so for whatever reason office manager is scared of this girl that sits next to me, does whatever she says, and kisses her A**. I dont know if its bc she talks ghetto and is from B-wood, who knows!! so now office manager dislikes me (just remember she is somewhat family) bc the girl that sits next to me hates me!

Whatever....I dont need new friends so I try not to let it bother me. I go to work, do my job, and go home!

Today my office manager says to me ' a little less internet today, i dont want the dr to see you on the computer' and i said ok no prob and apologized! I go in the kitchen and she fellows me in and says she wasnt trying to be mean but doesnt want me getting in trouble. I said you are the boss, you dont have to explain yourself to me. Its fine I wont go on the internet.

I get to my desk & pull up our interoffice email account and I see an email conversation between office manager and girl next to me and its ABOUT ME!!!!!!!! I dont know how I got it on my computer. ( this interoffice email thing is like 2 days old)
Office Manager: Hey
Girl: did you say anything to her in the kitchen?
OM: and i quote 'yes, she said whatever you're the boss. Yes she hates us...or me definately!!! Oh well...do you care? I feel a little bad...just a little'

I didnt want to say anything bc I wanted them to write each other again and hopefully it be something REALLY good. So instead I printed it on our printer and left it there for them to find and I left when the day was over. I hope they felt bad that maybe I saw it, or how did it get in the printer!

I hate my job, end of story! Thanks for listening
FutureMrsGTL Posted:

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Woowwww thats NOT cool at all hopefully they will feel REALLY dumb that you caught them talking crap!

and I would die or have nothing to say if I couldnt talk about my wedding!!! and I don't know why people wouldnt like you.. i I dont really know you but you seem pretty cool and nice to me ... dont let the haters get you down hunni!

SeptemberBride2012 Posted:

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Thats the best thing you could have done - let them now know that you saw it and you are above them and it doesn't bother you!!!!! Good luck tomorrow!

Ashley627 Posted:

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omg!!! St. Francis Hospital in Roslyn has a lot of openings, I'm applying there now.....peace out to the haters!!!

gaby12886 Posted:

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it'll get better... i went through something simmiler and it ****** but try not to stress things will look up! after all you are a happy bride to be and your co workers are miserable people that will get what's coming to them!!

LAM12784 Posted:

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That sounds AWFUL! I mean I have been trying not to make my wedding the topic of every conversation because I know how annoying that can be, I've been around a few bridezillas! But, it sounds like they were completely unjustified for talking about you like that. And it's such a happy time for you too and it sucks that you can't share that at work! LIW is blocked at work for me, not that I would have time as a teacher anyway. It seems like everyone posts during the day! I feel so left out!

MrsHazel2B Posted:

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sounds like your OM needs a personality and your co-worker needs to join LIW. My guess is neither of them are getting any..

FutureMrsGTL Posted:

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Posted by MrsHazel2B

sounds like your OM needs a personality and your co-worker needs to join LIW. My guess is neither of them are getting any..



mara1017 Posted:

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I would definitely start looking for another job!

MrsJPH2012 Posted:

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ALthough I agree that I would want to see if they say anything more, I think if she's in a supervisor position (Office Manager), you need to confront her.

If it were me... I would drop by her office and ask if she had a minute to talk, then close the door, tell her that you do very good in your job (give some specifics over things that you've done or been told you do well), and say I do apologize if it seems I've been on the internet a lot lately. I didn't think it was more than anyone else in the office, but I'll be more cognizant from now on.

However, I did see this email traffic between you and super B, and I need to tell you that I think its very unprofessional for someone in your position to be talking about other workers in such a friendly manner, especially when you're not concerned enough to ensure I don't know about it.

-- Also, if it were me, because I'm used to having a chain of command, i would keep it, as well as notes on anything else she seems to do unprofessionally, and if it doesn't stop, I would go to her boss and say listen, these are the things i've seen and felt AND I went to her to have a 1 on 1 to try to take care of it and it didn't help...


I know she's kind of family which is why it seems weird, and thats great that she hired you and all, but that doesn't make her perfect, and obviously she's not doing her job well if she's catering to an employee...

GAH people like that make me mad, I'm sorry you have to sit through it every day
FutureMrsCat050412 Posted:

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Thank you everyone! I need this type of advice. This has been going on for a while & I just dont know what to do anymore!

I REALLY want to walk out & say FU but I need my job! Sometimes things just arent that easy!
allornil Posted:

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Wow thats ridiculously unprofessional. Id have a meeting with her and put your cards on the table. What she did is grounds for firing imo.

And know what? Youre somewhat family too based on that relationship. Have a nice convo with her and keep that email saved...not at work.
FutureMrsCat050412 Posted:

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Update: we're ok for now! I'll write more later!


PHEW thanks girls
FutureMrsGTL Posted:

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glad everything is ok!

eta: keep us updated!
FutureMrsCat050412 Posted:

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The office manager pulled me aside and said this has gone too far. (she realized i saw the email & that she needed to say something)


I got out everything I wanted to say from all the wonderful advice I got from you girls. She apologized for talking about me behind my back & said she was wrong and she shouldnt have done that.
Long story short, if we have a problem with each other we are going to tell each other from here on out and not speak about each other behind our backs!


Phew! The weight that was lifted off my shoulders after that was GREAT!
FutureMrsGTL Posted:

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Good!!!!! hopefully it makes work a lil more bareable for you!

MrsJPH2012 Posted:

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Well I'm really glad something got changed! Good for you for standing up for yourself...

5272012 Posted:

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OMG THATS TERRIBLE ABOUT YESTERDAY!

but on todays note..YAY good thing you put that on the printer..so smart.

and yay for her talking to u :)
hope it makes things more bearable
as for the b*tch next to you.. shes obv jealous!
MrsHazel2B Posted:

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Posted by 5272012

OMG THATS TERRIBLE ABOUT YESTERDAY!

but on todays note..YAY good thing you put that on the printer..so smart.

and yay for her talking to u :)
hope it makes things more bearable
as for the b*tch next to you.. shes obv jealous!


Exactly this. Such a heffa!
FutureMrsGTL Posted:

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Posted by MrsHazel2B


Posted by 5272012

OMG THATS TERRIBLE ABOUT YESTERDAY!

but on todays note..YAY good thing you put that on the printer..so smart.

and yay for her talking to u :)
hope it makes things more bearable
as for the b*tch next to you.. shes obv jealous!


Exactly this. Such a heffa!



Such a heffa! I LOVE it!

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