Did you ask FMIL

Oh, is she supposed to be invited???

My shower is going to be in Ohio so she will not come. I did however get a guest list from her for my e-party (against my will).

I could only wish she wasn't coming!
I asked her for one, now mind you there were only 24 on mine, so I figured there would be only about 5 maybe 7 on hers well 21 later, I was angry!!!!!!!! I don't know half of these woman and I am not the type just to ask for a gift. Well she called my MOH today to rsvp for her, and her sister, ok fine and then she had the also rsvpd for her aunt which was one of the 20 that I had taken off the list and she knew it! Her Aunt is from OOT and I have met her 2 times. Now, how do I handle this?

My FMIL gave me a list but we are pretty close so it wasn't hard to ask her for it. Most of the people are OOT and will not come. They usually don't send gifts either. I just invited them to be nice

yes

my mother asked her for a shower list and my fmil gave her one only after 5 requests and then when like 10 people did not rsvp my motherh ad to call my fmil and she did one of thes' aunt sally....um....put her down as a yes' now my mother paid for the shower and was paying per head. it ended up working out but different people showed up than my fmil said were coming.

oh i made a list of all of my fh aunts who had to be invited in case my fmil left peopel off.