Did you let FH go to a strip club for his BP and then regret it?
EJSD2006
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Did you let FH go to a strip club for his BP and then regret it?
I think I do. last night was FH's party so my girlfriends didnt want me sitting at home. we went to dinner in the city and then wanted to show me EXACTLY what FH was doing so we went to Scores. I WAS NOT HAPPY! I didnt realize just how close the girls get and how flirtatious they are! i thought it was like the movies, there's a few chicks on stage, you throw money at them and you drink your beer. But these girls sit on your lap with their you know what in their faces, hold their hands and dont get me started on the lap dances!!!! my girlfriends said i was getting too worked up, but it seriously bothered me. i got home and i couldn't sleep at all!!! now i feel sad knowing that this happened to FH last night. am i crazy? i think i was better off with 'what i dont know wont hurt me'. i need hugs...
sami
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Listen remember one thing they act like this for the money.. they are naked beggers! Dont worry he is home now and belongs to you! And how do you know he got a lap dance!
CaseyVM214
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I am soooo sorry you had to see that. I feel the same way. I know my FI wouldnt leave me for a stripper...but the thought of some woman rubbing herself all over my man makes me sick!!! Sorry and try not to think about it..At least it is over now and it will never happen again!!!
CKJ906
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FH doesnt really want to go to one.
But dont worry, nothing bad happened
evnme
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if u trust your FH, then dont worry. DH went to one in AC and there was no nuditiy and they couldnt touch the girls, etc.
it was fine.
VICKYLANE
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EVERYTHINGS GOING TO BE OK...
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I think I do. last night was FH's party so my girlfriends didnt want me sitting at home. we went to dinner in the city and then wanted to show me EXACTLY what FH was doing so we went to Scores. I WAS NOT HAPPY! I didnt realize just how close the girls get and how flirtatious they are! i thought it was like the movies, there's a few chicks on stage, you throw money at them and you drink your beer. But these girls sit on your lap with their you know what in their faces, hold their hands and dont get me started on the lap dances!!!! my girlfriends said i was getting too worked up, but it seriously bothered me. i got home and i couldn't sleep at all!!! now i feel sad knowing that this happened to FH last night. am i crazy? i think i was better off with 'what i dont know wont hurt me'. i need hugs...
i want to do this-altho i am trying to prepare myself for the worst-ive never been to one, neither has FH...but as you can see from my prev. posts, hes also going to his b-party in AC and i hope he wont go to a strip club, but if he does (and he prob will :( ), i want to see how one exactly is...
whered ur fh go for his?
Beth1210
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I didn't think let let you touch the girls at scores- I thought they just danced on the tables...hum!
I wouldn't worry too much- it's not like he wants to go every week- it's a 1 time thing
R&J0806
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It took be a long time to get over this but if you just look at this from a different perspective it may help.
Remember, he's not dating those girls, having you-know-what with them. He's not even touching them. But more importantly, he's coming home to YOU. You're the one he loves. The girls at Scores are just entertainment. Make a joke of it next time and offer to give him dollar bills for them -- it will make him laugh and respect you more. Believe me, its not something you should be upset over.
Another idea...go to a strip club WITH him. You'll really get a feel for it then. It's very different then watching from a distance.
Don't worry. Just remember that he loves you.
Goldi1021
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Ive been to Scores too and I am pretty sure that if the men touch or are innappropriate towards the women, you are first given a sort of warning and then you are kicked out - and not nicely. I wouldn't be concerned. I am sure your FH will be more than appropriate.
pigs222seal
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Oh, feel better hun
kathrynlinton
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Honestly, he is YOUR FH, not one of those girls! Someone said on one of these threads that these girls are just in it for the money, they are.
My DH will go to strip clubs with a friend of his every once in a while, and while he is really 'over it' (his words) he goes for a couple of drinks and that is it. Most men enjoy visualization, women don't understand that.
Boston&NY2006
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Posted by kathrynlinton
Honestly, he is YOUR FH, not one of those girls! Someone said on one of these threads that these girls are just in it for the money, they are.
My DH will go to strip clubs with a friend of his every once in a while, and while he is really 'over it' (his words) he goes for a couple of drinks and that is it. Most men enjoy visualization, women don't understand that.
This is so true...and most guys know that the girls are just acting that way to get more of their money, so don't worry!!!!
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Posted by alnem
I think I do. last night was FH's party so my girlfriends didnt want me sitting at home. we went to dinner in the city and then wanted to show me EXACTLY what FH was doing so we went to Scores. I WAS NOT HAPPY! I didnt realize just how close the girls get and how flirtatious they are! i thought it was like the movies, there's a few chicks on stage, you throw money at them and you drink your beer. But these girls sit on your lap with their you know what in their faces, hold their hands and dont get me started on the lap dances!!!! my girlfriends said i was getting too worked up, but it seriously bothered me. i got home and i couldn't sleep at all!!! now i feel sad knowing that this happened to FH last night. am i crazy? i think i was better off with 'what i dont know wont hurt me'. i need hugs...
I'm sorry you feel so bad about this. This was the one thing that I had made completely clear to FH even back when we were just dating & had NO ideas of marriage. I am totally against strip clubs or lap dances! I mean, if it's not the type of thing that bothers other girls, then by all means.....To each their own.
But, FH & I didn't do those kinds of things as boyfriend/girlfriend so why would we want to do it right before the wedding? I let him know early on that I would def. not be cool with that! ANd he said he didn't care either way. He's not into the whole stripper bar scene anyway.
But I think you should at least let your FH know how you're feeling. Let him know that you're having all of these images of girls on him that makes you upset. Talking to him might be the only way to resolve the hurt. I know I would be not only furious, but also hurt. How would he feel if you had a bunch of guys rubbing their packages all over you? I hope everything works out for you...
johnsae
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yeah, it is shocking how slutty these girls get.....it bothers me too. i've been to strip clubs with DH and I try to be cool about it, but it bothers me too. but, there will always be strip clubs and men will always go....so it's just something that we have to accept.
lipglossjunky73
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After my bachelorette party last night and seeing these guys work the women for money (and being on stage being straddled and stuff...) I can tell you there is so not anything sexual about any of it - its all just for show and money and nothing else - I really wouldnt sweat it - he's marying YOU - he thinks you are hot and beautiful.... they are just 'fluff'
