Did you TIP/Are you TIPPING......

Roed522 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 10:45 AM

Did you TIP/Are you TIPPING......

your Officiant??
I posted on BHB but figured I'd come to my 07 girls for some much needed advice.
I'm trying to get all of my tip envelopes together for Saturday and I am a bit confused about this. Am I expected to give a tip, PLEAE someone tell me what the heck I'm suppose to do
TIA

Kara and Todd Posted: Aug 01, 2007 10:46 AM

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No. We're getting married in a church and we are not tipping the priest.

HeatherRose Posted: Aug 01, 2007 10:51 AM

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yes we are

nycerika318 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 10:53 AM

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We are getting married by a rabbi and we decided we would buy her a gift certificate to a spa because she is spending so much time with us.

Future Mrs. Posted: Aug 01, 2007 10:53 AM

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We paid top dollar for all of our vendors; therefore did not feel the need to tip.
In the end, we ended up tipping the band b/c they did such a phenominal job. We didn't plan on it, had no tip envelope and DH went upstairs to the room to get the $.

EverlovingEv Posted: Aug 01, 2007 10:55 AM

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We didn't tip the Rabbi. I thought that would be slightly disrespectful. We did want to buy him something - a bottle of wine etc...but didn't have time before the wedding

jaiese Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:02 AM

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Our officiant is invited to our reception. We also plan to give her a gift.

billandme Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:08 AM

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we tipped our priest!

Roed522 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:10 AM

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I didn't send out a formal invite, figured they could attend the cocktail hour. I'm just wondering now if a gift would be more appropriate than a 'Tip'. Why am I so clueless about this, lol.
Thanks ladies

jaiese Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:13 AM

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I think if you feel a tip is awkward, a gift is a nice gesture.

MJDoc12 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:13 AM

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we didn't--simply cause i think the rate is high as it is for 30 min. of work. lol we paid $449 and our officiant runs her own inter-faith ministry and performs like 2-3 weddings a day on the wknds. since she owned the 'business' i didn't feel she need a tip on top of the ceremony fee

HeatherRose Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:17 AM

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maybe We should change our minds.. were paying 650 for 30 mins.. no rehersal either.. and he does 3 or 4 a weekend at least.. hmmm maybe I should not be tipping, it is a lot of $$ for 30 mins...

monelwookie Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:24 AM

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since we have to make a 'donation' to the church for $400, and another 'donation' to our organist for $100, we are not going to tip our Priest...

nycerika318 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:28 AM

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Posted by EverlovingEv

We didn't tip the Rabbi. I thought that would be slightly disrespectful. We did want to buy him something - a bottle of wine etc...but didn't have time before the wedding

I think it really depends on who the person is. We are very reform, and our rabbi is about our age. We met with her in her apartment for our meetings.

SN2BMRSBURTE Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:33 AM

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Our priest doesn't charge anyone to get married. He says to just give the church a donation if you like, but he doesn't give you a donation amount like some priests do, he says whatever the couple wants to donate, if anything at all. So, we are going to tip/donate something.

EverlovingEv Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:34 AM

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Posted by nycerika318

Posted by EverlovingEv

We didn't tip the Rabbi. I thought that would be slightly disrespectful. We did want to buy him something - a bottle of wine etc...but didn't have time before the wedding

I think it really depends on who the person is. We are very reform, and our rabbi is about our age. We met with her in her apartment for our meetings.

Of course it does.

Roed522 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 11:45 AM

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OK so a gift it is, thank you lovely ladies so much. I'll just add that to my last minute things to do list, lol. Off to the craft store for some last minute things FH is going to kill me, LOL

dianadrw Posted: Aug 01, 2007 12:35 PM

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We actually had 2 priests marry us at our church. One was a visiting priest who co-celebrated w/ the priest from my parish. We made donations to both churches. We didn't feel comfortable tipping our priests.

Dalito322 Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:35 PM

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Nope, didn't feel it was necessary.

Also, if it is a religious ceremony and the officiant is a priest, pastor, rabbi etc - do not 'tip' them, as it is considered somewhat disrespectful. A lot of people will give a donation to the church or what not instead. We chose not to though, as I don't belong to the church of the pastor we used, his fee was sufficient

BunnyBride Posted: Aug 01, 2007 01:42 PM

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Posted by MJDoc12

we didn't--simply cause i think the rate is high as it is for 30 min. of work. lol we paid $449 and our officiant runs her own inter-faith ministry and performs like 2-3 weddings a day on the wknds. since she owned the 'business' i didn't feel she need a tip on top of the ceremony fee

Ditto on all accounts