Disagreements

Opera_Ghost Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:09 PM

Disagreements

Have you & FH bumped heads at certain things in the planning already?

If so what was it you clashed on?

So far FH & I haven't had any clashes except for Sans Souci after out food tasting with them. I thought the food was good but FH thought it was just average.... so we ended up eliminating it from our final choices.

Other than that it's been smoothe sailing.

kater08 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:12 PM

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we're clashing on the bridal party a bit...i wanted a small one, but he wants all of his siblings to be included, plus two of his sisters are married and he is close with his BIL's...

so that would make the entire wedding party his whole family and my sister...i think i'll look a bit outnumbered...

RitasEngaged Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:13 PM

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We haven't really argued we just disagreed on little ideas such as table numbers, cake toppers, music choice, little things like reception ideas that I had - he hated all of my ideas lol!!! SO we will see what happens.

I also argue with him that I feel like he is not putting enough input into the wedding planning. But we haven't fought about nothing major.

amandah75 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:15 PM

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I wouldn't say clash, but he has a habit of dismissing any of my ideas and putting me in charge of making his ideas a reality. Luckily I've liked most of them. He's getting better at listening to me and conceding here and there to an idea I have. He's such the chick in this planning.

Opera_Ghost Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:17 PM

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Posted by RitasEngaged

I also argue with him that I feel like he is not putting enough input into the wedding planning. But we haven't fought about nothing major.

That too with my & FH! I feel like I'm the only one coming up with suggestions. I came up with song ideas for dances, cake cutting, etc... and he was like 'those sound ok....'
He didn't even look into RH's, I did all the work and he just came along lol.

I need some input & more ideas from him!!!

rocketsummer17 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:21 PM

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the only thing we dont agree on is the style of dress i can wear!!
He likes very simple and plain, and I was thinking something pretty, beaded and not plain...

JoanneAndJustin Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:26 PM

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Posted by amandah75

I wouldn't say clash, but he has a habit of dismissing any of my ideas and putting me in charge of making his ideas a reality. Luckily I've liked most of them. He's getting better at listening to me and conceding here and there to an idea I have. He's such the chick in this planning.

This is my life, but we're working it out.... We're good at meeting in the middle.

Opera_Ghost Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:27 PM

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FH wants to just book CLM without going to Douglaston again.. but he wants to book at every hall that we last saw. It's which ever was the one we visited that day.. I told him to sleep on it and we're still going to the Douglaston Manor showcase tonight (or at least I am) cause I need to know the decision & RH that feels right for me.

T E R I Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:28 PM

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the only thing we were having disagreements on were the RH's and it was mainly over pricing and the fact that i was getting tired of going to soo many halls

Other than that, FH is leaving all wedding related items to me and doesn't really want to know any of the details-just how much it will cost in the end and if i am within the budget

RitasEngaged Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:44 PM

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Posted by rocketsummer17

the only thing we dont agree on is the style of dress i can wear!!
He likes very simple and plain, and I was thinking something pretty, beaded and not plain...

OMG I forgot about that - He cannot believe I want a 'puffy' dress - I was like well what do you think a wedding dress is. I always dreamt about my wedding gown and he will probably hate it!!!!!!!!!

FallBride2010 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 02:46 PM

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so far we have been agreeing on everything. the 2nd RH I took him to was my favorite...and it was also his. he has been so against having a band...but then i showed him one i like...and now he wants it too. he's been great so far!

JenBill61210 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 03:02 PM

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probably just argue about when i set appointments up. its either too early for him or during a sports game or something

BluAngel93 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 03:26 PM

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I'm def a planner by nature but FH dubbed me the 'researcher' for the whole shebang...so 'our' planning basically consists of me looking into everything and then asking him for opinions.

I think it's still a bit overwhelming for him since our wedding's so far away...i'm just hoping his head doesn't explode when we go on a whirlwind RH visiting spree next weekend while we're home! (we live in NC)

Opera_Ghost Posted: Sep 24, 2008 03:32 PM

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AnytimeI bring up something and ask for his opinion the response is always 'If that's what you want.' But what about what HE wants?? It's his wedding too!

JenBill61210 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 03:34 PM

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Posted by Opera_Ghost

AnytimeI bring up something and ask for his opinion the response is always 'If that's what you want.' But what about what HE wants?? It's his wedding too!

lol i know what you mean. today FH was like 'honestly, i really couldn't care about the flowers. i just care about what it costs' lol

Opera_Ghost Posted: Sep 24, 2008 03:50 PM

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Posted by jenny8484

Posted by Opera_Ghost

AnytimeI bring up something and ask for his opinion the response is always 'If that's what you want.' But what about what HE wants?? It's his wedding too!

lol i know what you mean. today FH was like 'honestly, i really couldn't care about the flowers. i just care about what it costs' lol

I hate that But it's not so much a 'how much $$' issue.
Sometimes I feel like he has a different opinion and doesnt say something cause he knows I like it, as if he's afraid to rock the boat.

mosh424 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 05:10 PM

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we luckily haven't clashed about anything yet.....but it is still early

BluAngel93 Posted: Sep 24, 2008 09:23 PM

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Posted by Opera_Ghost

Posted by jenny8484

AnytimeI bring up something and ask for his opinion the response is always 'If that's what you want.' But what about what HE wants?? It's his wedding too!

lol i know what you mean. today FH was like 'honestly, i really couldn't care about the flowers. i just care about what it costs' lol

These are exactly the same conversations i keep having with my FH!