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Soon2BMrsD Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:23 AM

disapointed

im getting really down about this whole wedding thing. FH and i have NO $$$ and he thinks we can afford this 30k wedding... i dont know what hes smoking but its impossible. i wanted a small, no big thing wedding and he talked me out of it and into this huge expensive wedding (so not my style) and i really want to book the DJ and Photog. but cant cuz we have just emptyed our life savings into the RH. i dont know im just really upset cuz the only thing that i reallly really really want at this wedding that he 'wants' is beautiful pictures and im afraid if we dont book SOON im going to have to settle for someone else that i dont want cuz we waited to long to book... kinda venting. Sorry!

tara08 Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:29 AM

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Ohhhh-Im so sorry you are feeling frustrated. I wouldnt get too caught up in booking a dj/photog now.... there is still a long way to go until any of us get married on the 08 boards. Try to really sit down and think where you guys can cut corners and where you cant. For me and FH having floral centerpieces were not a big deal so when we booked our rh we had them throw in the candlabras that were on the table for free.... that saves us a ton of money!!! Think of the things that are so important to you and dont settle for less--- you have more than enough time to save up money for a photographer... take it easy and it will all be ok!!!!

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:30 AM

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Dont get discouraged. You have plenty of time to save a little bit each week to put towards the wedding.
Photographers don't require an enormous downpayment like a RH does, so even if you save like $300 by Jan you'll still be able to book a fantastic photographer.

Trust me Megan, I feel you're pain. Between cc bills, student loans, car payments, and rent... we're barely keeping our heads above water. But we try and put $20 aside every week into our 'wedding fund'. It's not much, but it could be a downpayment on some vendor. Hang in there chica

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:35 AM

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thanks the only reason im stressing is b/c i dont work full time and i still potentially have one more full year of school. and i have a car i just financed which eats up just about all my pay. (mind u fh doesnt have a car so it was important to get a good car) and he works full time but his paychecks are nothing i knwo that sounds bad but in the police academy their pay is 25k before taxes are taken out. so its stressful and we dont even pay rent so im just really worried if we cant live togetehr cuz we cant afford it how can we pay for a 30k wedding.. sorry im just having one of those days. and when i bring it up he says 'dont worry ill just work a little over time' i wish a little over time could take care of everything.

tara08 Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:43 AM

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But it will work out over time!!!! Dont stress too much even if his pay is 25 before taxes you will still be able to save for photog/dj..... try to just relax... planning the wedding is supposed to be fun... dont get too consumed with it... Money will work out!!!!

Jesses Girl Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:46 AM

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we are payin off our hall monthly...not every2 or three...and when i work full time we will start putting away 1000$ each a month for the rest of the time until the wedding...it will make it MORE than enough money to have before we get married. Have you thought about that?! maybe puttin that much aside? (my best friend did that)

im sure you will be able to make it work.
im a poor one tOO!

dont be discouraged where theres a will theres a way...(and im not being completely cliche...its for real)

AMGBride2008 Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:50 AM

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Megan... once he's out of the acedemy he'll get tons of overtime but he'll also have the option of doing paid detail (one of my good friends is an NYPD cop and does it all the time... he's trying to pay for a wedding too). Working a Macy's for $30 an hour and basicaly just sitting there making sure there's no chaos.

Sit down with your FH and figure out a budget... what you both bring in every month, how much you send out (bills, etc.) and how much is left over. Take whatever is leftover and put half of it away.

Definitely look into ways to cut corners. Maybe you don't do favors and instead of getting the stretch hummer limo, you downgrade.

Things will work out and just remember, you're parents will never leave you hanging

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:50 AM

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we're trying but i dont even make a 1000 a month and i wont be working full time till after the wedding. i graduate school one month before the wedding. and FH is maybe a little over 1000 a month. so theres no way we can afford to do that right now. i dont know i just think the will in this way is to call off this huge wedding and have a smaller wedding. i just dont know todays a bad day.

Thanks girls for the advice i appriciate it!

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:52 AM

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trust me im cutting every corner possible. i'm making favors, im making centerpieces, wish bowl, guest book, place cards, menus. all that stuff. no limos. So im cutting corners. well see.. thanks for listening to me b!tch and moan

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 14, 2006 10:56 AM

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it will work out ...almost everything always does ...dont get stressed over it ..this is supposed to be fun ! thats why we did Aruba ! lol sorry i had to say it ...i wsh i could have the big princess wedding that u girls are gonna have but its just totally not possible ...too much family and friends to invite and i have some very expensive taste which i hate ...

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Nov 14, 2006 11:01 AM

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can we switch.. i talked everyone into a bahamas/or disney wedding... EXCEPT FH... i told him ill go get married their and he can get married here..i tried..lol

rysie Posted: Nov 14, 2006 11:05 AM

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aww....it's okay to have a bad day! Everything finds a way of working out! Like Kim said even $20 here and there will add up over time - I do it (okay for only the past month but still!)! It's so easy to get upset/stressed or whatever over the $$$ issues - I do all the time...and it's not easy to hear all the 'it will be okays' - but you are not alone I promise you that! In my own world of $$$ woes, this Aug. I have to get a car (Yikes!!!) and have all my loans come in and living in NYC (and I'm in hospital housing which is 'slightly' discounted) doesn't allow me to save, hence $20!! Try to relax and not let it get you down!!! You're gonna have a great photog and incredible pictures to show us soon enough

Jesses Girl Posted: Nov 14, 2006 11:07 AM

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awww i kno how bad days run! hang in there....it will all come together.

Soon2BMrsD Posted: Nov 14, 2006 11:08 AM

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thanks everyone!!

kimnsteve Posted: Nov 14, 2006 11:13 AM

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Posted by Soon2BMrsD

can we switch.. i talked everyone into a bahamas/or disney wedding... EXCEPT FH... i told him ill go get married their and he can get married here..i tried..lol

gladly !!!

Mrs. V 2008 Posted: Nov 14, 2006 12:28 PM

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aw im sorry,,,don't feel that way though!! you still have almost 2 years, you can probably save for a photographer and there are some pretty reasonable ones out there!

megzzie Posted: Nov 14, 2006 12:50 PM

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Don't feel disappointed! You still have time to save more money, plus it's good that you're very creative and do a lot of DIY stuff...that saves a lot of money. Everything will work out! Feel better!!

nifheim Posted: Nov 14, 2006 01:00 PM

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Its a rough boat for a lot of people on the 08's because most of us put off the wedding because of partime jobs, school or waiting for a raise to pay for that wedding. Its really hard right now and i feel bad for your situation.

I am in that situation now too, we put what we can afford which is a total of $700/800 a month away but we have been doing it for three months now. We pushed booking a hall till december in order for us to have at least two/three payments in the bank so if something happens we just have to come up with the last two.

We booked our photographer but i threw that on my credit card for $500 depo. I am paying that myself by selling things on ebay, offering services to friends to type out last minute papers and some photography work.

Try to find something around the house you don't need to sell. I am finding that great.. cleaning out and making $$

beachbum05 Posted: Nov 14, 2006 01:20 PM

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MEGSTER!!!!

I hear you sistah. I think you are preaching to the choir here. It's really tough to figure out how we're going to pay for it all. I think - seriously - we might have to open a joint credit card. And pay it off when we can. Otherwise, I don't know HOW we're going to pay for it all. We're both going to be in school (I start in January). So I dont know WHERE our income is going to come from!