just found out another one of my BM's is prego....that means 2 out of 5 girls have buns in the oven. while i'm so excited for them (honestly), i can't help feeling a little sad that my bachelorette party is going to be a bomb and nothing like i've always thought it would be. is that selfish?
SoonToBeMrsScott
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no its not selfish everyone has a dream of every detail of their wedding congrats to your bm's and maybe they can still pull something off they may not be able to drink but they can still have fun with you
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Thats so exciting for them. But I can see where you are coming from.. Not wild night out drinking. Do you have non-preggo Bms or friends that can go out for another night. You can have one low-key nigh, and one wild night.
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Not selfish ... sorry you're feeling that way. will you have other girls who will be there that will be drinking and such? also .. what's to say the girls who are preggo aren't going to still be partiers, just sober ones?? how far along are they?
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It's understandable....we all envision every detail and want it to be what we expect. Just because they're prego doesn't mean they can't go out....they just can't drink. I think they'll still manage to make it a fun night
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i have a few other girls who will party with me...but the 2 that are prego are close friends that i wish were able to share in the night. 1 said she'd come to dinner and the other as of now will stay as long as she can.
i'm one of the last of my friends to get married....guess i just felt down knowing how much fun i've had at everyone elses.
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Posted by bonch20
just found out another one of my BM's is prego....that means 2 out of 5 girls have buns in the oven. while i'm so excited for them (honestly), i can't help feeling a little sad that my bachelorette party is going to be a bomb and nothing like i've always thought it would be. is that selfish?
no its not selfish. my moh, who is my sister, and my bm my other sister are both prego. I am not mad but they will not be the same as I was for them. They will probably being sitting most of the time.
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i had a prego bm too, so what we did was we did pizza and a sex toy party at my house on a friday night, then saturday the rest of the bm and a few friends went to ac , so no one was left out
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Posted by Cheryl28
Posted by bonch20
just found out another one of my BM's is prego....that means 2 out of 5 girls have buns in the oven. while i'm so excited for them (honestly), i can't help feeling a little sad that my bachelorette party is going to be a bomb and nothing like i've always thought it would be. is that selfish?
no its not selfish. my moh, who is my sister, and my bm my other sister are both prego. I am not mad but they will not be the same as I was for them. They will probably being sitting most of the time.
i'm not mad either...just might feel funny being drunk and stupid around them.
bonch20
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Posted by lillprincess54
i had a prego bm too, so what we did was we did pizza and a sex toy party at my house on a friday night, then saturday the rest of the bm and a few friends went to ac , so no one was left out
that sounds nice, i don't have that many friends....lol...plus many are moms and don't want to go away too far.
klanghan
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not selfish at all---hey you are better than me 3 out of 5 pregnant and 3 of the ushers wives, and 3 friends also, its the 'theme' of my wedding
babygirlb
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It is okay to be a little disappointed. I am sure everything will work out. When you are with friends you will definitely have fun.
MrsHtobe
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Bonnie, that isn't selfish at all. I think everyone understands how you feel a bit, we'd all be the same way.
I'm sure your other bridesmaids will show you a great time though, and your preggo friends will try their hardest too!!!
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You are not selfish at all. We all dream of our wedding and all of the festivities that lead up to that day. So it is understandable that you feel a little disappointment. I'm sure that everything well be fine. Your other bm can still plan a wonderfully day out. Don't worry it will all work out.
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It's not selfish. It's true, I think we all have this grand vision of how everything will be and when certain things come up and sort of change it we can't help but fell a little down. trust me, I can empathize!
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lonal
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It's not sellfish at all! I had 3 prego bms but one is due on my wedding so she had to drop out! Another is due 3 weeks before and the other is due one month before. I understand where you are coming from. While I'm so happy for them it made me a little sad too. Your not alone!
