Do I have a right to still be upset? kind of long

I'll start from the beginning. My future in laws had said that they would pay for our wedding since my parents didn't have the money. All my parents had to do was pay for their expenses for the wedding(place to stay, food, airline tickets) I was going to rent a car and let them use it as long as they helped pay for it.

My MIL had bent over backwards to help them. She found a great little house they could stay at in FL but you had to stay there a week, since my DH and I were coming early we'd stay and rent till they got there. My grandma had given my parents $1100 for their plane tickets as a gift to me for them to be there at my wedding.

A month before my wedding, my father calls me and leaves a message. Mind you I had just worked a 12+ hour shift,we were playing war in our gear which is 30+ lbs. The message he left was not nice at all. He flipped on the answering machine saying they can't afford to come, I keep adding expenses to them(what the hell it was I'm not sure)

My parents had an inheritance coming in before the wedding a good amount. Still they decided not to come. They never gave my MIL a call to say they weren't coming...they left it up to me!

My parents had never called on the day of my wedding. When I got back from Aruba, I got no card, nothing from them. When I asked my father said 'after we get a new couch, a new stove, new mattress, and fix my tractor, we'll see how much we'll give you!'

I was pissed and still am. Its like I did so much for them and they can't even get me a damn card!

Do I have a right to be mad?

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Posted by thelastresort

On the upside, it sounds like you inherited awesome in-laws!

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Hell yeah I did, they are amazing!

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Posted by qtdimps23
did you always have this kind of relationship with your parents?

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Well...kind of. Not so much my mom but my father is a real @ss. When I just came into the military he had stolen some of my checks and wrote checks to himself. Which had put me in major negative balance. Then when I was in Iraq, he had cashed a check that was in MY name.

I thought things would be different, I had a HUGE talk with my father before I left for Korea. Things were doing better but it seems it was a lie.

It's their loss and they can never have that moment in time ever!!!!
You have Great In-Laws who are more of Parents to you then your own!!!!
I your In-Laws!!!!
The sad part is that they thought more of themselvs then they did of you and DH..... Enjoy your new life with your new Family!!!!!

WOW...I am so sorry your family is acting like that. You are very lucky to have the new family you got with this marriage. I don't blame you for still being mad. Only advice I can give is this:
Don't let them know how much it hurt and still hurts you. Some people feed off of the way they affect others. Be the better person and to them, be over it.
I know it will hurt forever, but just know how lucky you are now.
Your pics are beyond beautiful by the way!

You have a right to feel any way you want. Would I be mad, yes. But I think more hurt and upset.

I hope you feel better.

You gained a new wonderful family and a husband....

Keep your head up. Feel better.

So sorry you have to go thru all this! Yes, you have every right to be upset.