A few people we know just got married recently and we were not invited to the wedding. We use to be close friends (within the group) but of course as we gotten older with responsibilities we've drifted apart. When they got married a few of our other friends were invited to the wedding-- so the question is, do we invite the ones who didnt invite us?? my cousin said I should invite them and not be like them... what to do?
i honestly think if there was no real reason why you weren't invited you should be the better person and invite them... let it be their decision whether to come or not !!!
Posted by Kricket212
I say NO! If you really don't talk to them then why invite them? I am going thru the same thing with a girl I was best friends with since 14. The last 2 years we drifted apart. I see her when my other best friend has things going on for her baby.
I am not inviting the friend & keep going back & forth...why invite them though if you or I will never again talk to these people.
Does anyone think I am wrong?
Posted by OY
Posted by Kricket212
I say NO! If you really don't talk to them then why invite them? I am going thru the same thing with a girl I was best friends with since 14. The last 2 years we drifted apart. I see her when my other best friend has things going on for her baby.
I am not inviting the friend & keep going back & forth...why invite them though if you or I will never again talk to these people.
Does anyone think I am wrong?
The thing is.. I do still see some of these people, but not often. Like a few times a year . . . will it make it even more awkward?
i wouldn't invite them. they didn't invite you or FH. Also, it doesn't sound like you're that close with them anyway and if the cost is another concern, all the more reason not to invite.
I am in the same boat as you. I used to be in a very big, tight group of friends. When I met my FH, I kind of drifted from them, but I still hang out with everyone a few times a year. I was not invited to two of those friends' weddings. I wasn't all that close with them, but I'm sure if I still was hanging out with them, I would have been invited. I am not inviting them and I don't feel the slightest bit bad about it, haha.
things cannot possible get any more arkward than it it is now. u and you fh were obviously not considered close enough to them to be put on their A or B list so u shouldn't feel obligated to invite them to your wedding. if they ask u how your wedding was after its over, just reply, 'oh we had a great time.'
Another thing is that... the two friends who didnt invite us hangs out with the same group of friends that I use to hang out with... I will be inviting the other friends within that group -- thats ok right? i hate to be the talk of the century within that group and i hate conflicts!! this totally *****!
If you have the room and the money, will it hurt to invite them? I say invite people who are on the bubble if you can afford to, and if you can't, so be it. DH had a group that he was only 'half-in' with, and he didn't invite all of them. The only one who got pissed was the one we cut in favor of his ex (whom we are better friends with). He called her to complain, not us. We mocked. It was healing.
I wouldnt invite them, they didnt invite you to their weddings.
I would not invite them apparently they didnt feel they were close to you anymore by not inviting you.
I wouldn't invite them.
