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Do you tell the other vendors you met with when you picked one?

maddie_nyc Posted:

Do you tell the other vendors you met with when you picked one?

When you go see florists, videographers, etc... and you finally pick one, do you let the others know about your decision or you just let them figure it out?

If you do let them know, do you do it by e-mail or phone?
Do they ever ask why you didn't hire them? Do you tell them the truth?

Thanks ladies.
Goldi1021 Posted:

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One of the vendors I did not choose called to ask if I had chosen one for a particular service. I told them I did and thanked them for their time but did not tell them who I chose. Then a few days later, I got another call from the same vendor (different person) and they asked who I chose. They didnt need to know.

mycrayon1 Posted:

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I hadn't called any of the ones that I met with but a few did call me and asked why I went with who I did.
Everyone was really understanding except one phtographer that I met with (who shall remain nameless) on my own who didn't make me feel comfortable AT ALL while I was there and I went by myself, and she was trying to push me into booking her and to get my mom on the phone and when I told her that she didn't havea cell phone (she does but its always off lol) she acted like I was lyig. So I left and booked the photographer I really wanted and when she called me about 3 weeks later I told her that I had booked someone else and then she started to harass me on the phone and through the mail!!!!!! :shock:
MichLiz213 Posted:

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I only saw one photographer, DJ, make-up artist and limo service, so I was lucky in that department.

I did see seven different florists before booking the eighth one, and the only one who called to follow-up was the first florist I had seen (twice). I wasn't home at the time of the call.
CaitlinD Posted:

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I have found that they will call you to follow up if they haven't heard from you in awhile.

PegaLega Posted:

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Supposedly you are supposed to call-I didnt call anyone and tell them I chose someone else or who I chose. I dont think its there business WHO you chose

happygirl07 Posted:

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I have let a few of them know that I've selected someone else if they ask me to let them know and they have been extremely nice to me.

JIFFY Posted:

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I don't remember who it was bc I was driving when a vendor called me on my cell. I told them I was using someone else and why. They got really pissy and were like- why didn't you come see us- why didn't you use us? I shook my head and said 'bugger off' Who wants to be harrassed by vendors?
Dee606 Posted:

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No, I do not let them know. We are far to busy planning our wedding to call back vendors to tell them that we are going with someone else.

Do you get random vendors thatcontact you by phone? I think I may know who sold or gave out my cell number & I do not appreciate it so when I get the calls, I can be pretty short with them.
Michy Posted:

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I never told any of the vendors I did not choose who I chose instead. One vendor called me and I told him I chose someone else.

MJDoc12 Posted:

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Posted by CaitlinD

I have found that they will call you to follow up if they haven't heard from you in awhile.


yup..i agree

besides--it's not like your turning down a date or something. they are a vendor--and if you call....many times you have to go thru this uncomfortable question as to why. none of their business!
maddie_nyc Posted:

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I wasn't worried about telling them who I picked but if they took the time, sometimes an hour or so to sit down and talk to us about our wedding, wouldn't it be courteous to send them a quick e-mail 'thanks for your time, we decided to go with xyz florist..'

Is there some sort of an ettiquette?

What if they ask you if there's any tip you can give them because they're just starting out and learning etc..
Would you help them and give them tips how they can improve...?

Thanks....

I just hate leaving people hanging who are waiting for a decision from me...
sr081906 Posted:

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I only replied to one vendor who kept emailing me to remind me that the date was still open so I finally gave up and emailed him back. I did not told him who I chose.

I did not interview that many vendors (I did a lot of PRE research) but I emailed the vendors after we met to thank them for their time. We then decided who we wanted and that's it.
rojerono Posted:

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I e-mailed the halls that I had spoken to. I didn't mention WHO i chose... just that I had already found arrangements elsewhere, and thanked them. I had spoken to a DJ and when I got an e-mail asking if I was still interested, I wrote an e-mail telling them NO and why not.

:)
MichLiz213 Posted:

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Posted by maddie_nyc

I wasn't worried about telling them who I picked but if they took the time, sometimes an hour or so to sit down and talk to us about our wedding, wouldn't it be courteous to send them a quick e-mail 'thanks for your time, we decided to go with xyz florist..'

Is there some sort of an ettiquette?

What if they ask you if there's any tip you can give them because they're just starting out and learning etc..
Would you help them and give them tips how they can improve...?

Thanks....

I just hate leaving people hanging who are waiting for a decision from me...


I think they understand. That's the business they're in. I'm not in the wedding business, so I think tips from brides would not be helpful, especially because most of my issue was price.

I think dropping them an e-mail would be fine! I think they would appreciate it!
NovemberBride06 Posted:

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I had one florist ask me to call her either way - if we chose her or not. Luckily we liked her and avoided an awkward phone call.

I've had a few vendors call and follow up. They never asked who we chose and they were all very nice about it. I think they understand.

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