DOC vs. Maitre D

The Maitre D make sure things run smoothly with the hall, but they do not take care of the little things for you, what they mostly take care of the food and make sure it comes out, now your DOC would make sure that your food is coming out on time, and remember the Maitre D is only at the reception site, she is not at your house or with you before you reach the reception site, she does make sure that your cermony location is set up and everyone is on time, and rounding people up for pictures, the Maitre D or Bridal Attendent does not take care of that..

I can see why a BM and DOC would probably bump heads, because your DOC would be on your BM to make sure that you are getting what you want..

I decided to hire a DOC. It really wasn't a lot of $$$ (trust me we are counting penny's bc FH & I are paying for everthing). For me the DOC offered something invaluable-peace of mind. I don't want my mom, MOH or FMIL to deal with anything on the big day. I especially don't want to deal with anything other than get married and have a good time. I have also been given discounts from vendors bc of the relationship my DOC has with them. Even though she is hired just for the day she has been at my service since I hired her. If my BM doesn't like that I have someone looking out for my best interest that's his/her problem

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Posted by brittny817

I decided to hire a DOC. It really wasn't a lot of $$$ (trust me we are counting penny's bc FH & I are paying for everthing). For me the DOC offered something invaluable-peace of mind. I don't want my mom, MOH or FMIL to deal with anything on the big day. I especially don't want to deal with anything other than get married and have a good time. I have also been given discounts from vendors bc of the relationship my DOC has with them. Even though she is hired just for the day she has been at my service since I hired her. If my BM doesn't like that I have someone looking out for my best interest that's his/her problem

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britt... which DOC did you go with??? I am thinking about hiring one too. Thanks

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Posted by melbalalala

My BM was REALLY discouraging me from getting a DOC.. I wonder if they bump heads alot?

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sometimes..if the DOC does not have food service experience it can get messy. Food timing is hard, and if the DOC wants to *change* something after the food prep has already begun, then the MD looks like (s)he cannot control their kitchen....

Getting a DOC is all up to you. I was unsure about getting one. But once I started reading all of the past brides most of them who got one said it was the best thing that they did. A DOC is with you from when you wake up in the AM till you are at your final place at the end of the night. I meet with a DOC and she went over past situations where a DOC was needed. I like the idea of having someone there for me. Maitre D and Bridal Attendant work for you hall. A DOC is there for you. Just my opinion. Its your day and what ever would make you feel good is what you should do.

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Posted by HearzBellz

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Posted by melbalalala

My BM was REALLY discouraging me from getting a DOC.. I wonder if they bump heads alot?

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sometimes..if the DOC does not have food service experience it can get messy. Food timing is hard, and if the DOC wants to *change* something after the food prep has already begun, then the MD looks like (s)he cannot control their kitchen....

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I could see that. My BM made it VERY clear that they were very very good at what they do.. that the ceremony would be flawless as well as the reception..... I guess Id hate it if someone came into MY job and told me what to do.

I hired a DOC and to be honest it was almost the first things I did.

A DOC is with you all day, she is the first vendor to arrive and the last one to leave. Her job is to be there for me and my FH and to make sure that nothing goes wrong. Your Maitre D is there to take care of any problems that arise with the hall (food, service, etc....) they are not with you while your Photographer is taking pics and forgets to take a special one you wanted or making sure that the bridal party is in order, vendors are all doing what they are supposed to, flowers get there and everything it where it should be. My DOC will be the one that will do that for me.

I don't want anyone in the BP worrying about anything or my MOH running around to make sure I am happy. My DOC will do the leg work and the only job the rest of us will have is to just have fun!

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Posted by chrissyandvin

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Posted by brittny817

I decided to hire a DOC. It really wasn't a lot of $$$ (trust me we are counting penny's bc FH & I are paying for everthing). For me the DOC offered something invaluable-peace of mind. I don't want my mom, MOH or FMIL to deal with anything on the big day. I especially don't want to deal with anything other than get married and have a good time. I have also been given discounts from vendors bc of the relationship my DOC has with them. Even though she is hired just for the day she has been at my service since I hired her. If my BM doesn't like that I have someone looking out for my best interest that's his/her problem

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britt... which DOC did you go with??? I am thinking about hiring one too. Thanks

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Chrissy..you have FM

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Posted by brittny817

I decided to hire a DOC. It really wasn't a lot of $$$ (trust me we are counting penny's bc FH & I are paying for everthing). For me the DOC offered something invaluable-peace of mind. I don't want my mom, MOH or FMIL to deal with anything on the big day. I especially don't want to deal with anything other than get married and have a good time. I have also been given discounts from vendors bc of the relationship my DOC has with them. Even though she is hired just for the day she has been at my service since I hired her. If my BM doesn't like that I have someone looking out for my best interest that's his/her problem

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I totally agree that's why we hired Laura from LA productions...:)

well in my opinion I didnt see a need for a DOC I think my wedding will be just fine without a DOC - im not stressing the little things so I would rather take the money I would use for a DOC and spend it towards my honeymoon... thats just my intake on on it.

thanks for asking the question. I want to hire a DOC becuase i dont t hing my MD and BA's will handle the samll details like the DOC. I will need someone to collect the cameras from the table, roll out isle runner and most importantly be my ears and eyes when i am enjoying my day!!!!

SO i will have Michelle from Defining Moments as my DOC..... yippy!!!!!!

Nonetheless, it's up to you!!! Good Luck.

Britt,
Give me info also. Im curious to know what price ranges are going for.

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Posted by melbalalala

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Posted by HearzBellz

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Posted by melbalalala

My BM was REALLY discouraging me from getting a DOC.. I wonder if they bump heads alot?

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sometimes..if the DOC does not have food service experience it can get messy. Food timing is hard, and if the DOC wants to *change* something after the food prep has already begun, then the MD looks like (s)he cannot control their kitchen....

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I could see that. My BM made it VERY clear that they were very very good at what they do.. that the ceremony would be flawless as well as the reception..... I guess Id hate it if someone came into MY job and told me what to do.

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I agree...I haven't been told anything about my hall's opinion on the DOC, but I have attended affairs there, and the M.D. and BM seem to put out all the decorations, and I was told they would take care of that stuff the day of my wedding- I guess the way I look at it, is that if I am really prepared and trust my vendors and hall, then it is unneccesary to pay someone else to do a job that will already be done.

I'm not having a DOC. I'm having to much planning everything on my own and feel that the money could be better used. Honeymoon out wieghs DOC....LOL