Does anyone feel...

Does anyone feel like they just want to get the wedding over sometimes?

I didn't even want a wedding this big. I wouldve been fine eloping or having a dinner after church. FH really wanted this and there are wayyy too many people than I wanted.

That's not even the stressful part. I'm just over everyone's comments about every single thing I do (or don't do). I usually handle pressure well and even FH says he gives me credit.

I'm so over what everyone has to say. Every day it's something and I'm looking forward to just being married and this stress and everyone's opinions to stop!

Vent over. Can anyone relate??

I am really tired of all the comments about every decision that we make. I also hate being stressed out all the time & I can't stand all the arguing.

FH & I are both really annoyed with a lot of people over the RSVP's. Seriously people either you are coming or your not just send the damn thing back.

I can relate but don't let others get to you. You're almost there!

yes and no.

i am sure i will be sad onces the wedding is over but i am really excited for once we can just go back to not being uber stressed all the time and not having to be so tight with money etc

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Posted by Diana508

Does anyone feel like they just want to get the wedding over sometimes?

I didn't even want a wedding this big. I wouldve been fine eloping or having a dinner after church. FH really wanted this and there are wayyy too many people than I wanted.

That's not even the stressful part. I'm just over everyone's comments about every single thing I do (or don't do). I usually handle pressure well and even FH says he gives me credit.

I'm so over what everyone has to say. Every day it's something and I'm looking forward to just being married and this stress and everyone's opinions to stop!

Vent over. Can anyone relate??

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OMG, I feel like you read my mind!!!

I can completely relate. Some days I am excited and don't want it to end and other days I'm like 'I want it to be over!' 'If one more person asks me a question I'm going to flip out,' etc...
It's the 'joy' of wedding planning...
We'll all be OK. Hang in there!

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Posted by MrsC2010

yes and no.

i am sure i will be sad onces the wedding is over but i am really excited for once we can just go back to not being uber stressed all the time and not having to be so tight with money etc

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ITA with this.

Sometimes.

And we're having two receptions.

FH just asked me the other day if it was normal for him to just want the whole wedding thing to be over and done with, and he felt so bad saying that. I was like HELLLLLYEAAAAH it's normal. I had to dig my heels in early on and not give in to things 'just because' the wedding industry says so. I hated that I felt weird about what I was planning...that it wasn't all 'the right thing to do' and such. And then I realized that I'm just throwing a big fkn party and that's how I'm treating it.

I can't wait to just start my life with FH though. That's what I'm really excited about.

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Posted by CaseyNTim

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Posted by MrsC2010

yes and no.

i am sure i will be sad onces the wedding is over but i am really excited for once we can just go back to not being uber stressed all the time and not having to be so tight with money etc

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ITA with this.

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Me too. I hate having to be so tight with money and getting into stupid arguments with FH over it. We never really got into fights before but since we've been saving and gotten into wedding planning it's been happening more often. I love all the planning and I know I'm going to be sad when it's over but sometimes it's just so much.

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Posted by MrsC2010

yes and no.

i am sure i will be sad onces the wedding is over but i am really excited for once we can just go back to not being uber stressed all the time and not having to be so tight with money etc

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Same here - plus we are in the process of buying a house (closing in April)....so between the wedding and that, we are so stressed and strapped for cash...yeah, it has caused arguments - but we keep saying it will all be worth it in the end.

As for the comments from family members- I practically flipped on my Mom last night (although she has good intentions)....I still live at home, and had a really bad and long day...I finally got into bed at 10:45 and Mom comes in my room at 11 and started rattling off her thoughts and ideas on stuff for the wedding....I looked at her and was like, 'really Mom - its 11pm?! and I am sleeping!!' ugh.

Take it from me when I tell you this. It will be over before you even realize it happened! The ceremony is gonna fly, the reception, the HM, everything! Then, you won't have anything left to plan b/c you've been so used to planning your wedding. You will miss it...
Enjoy it now b/c you won't be able to get any of it back when it's over. As for annoying people with their questions, put on your 'get the f outta here' face and they'll move on! But enjoy the rest of the time you have to plan!

I think its perfectly fine to feel that way. I didn't want the really big wedding either, we did it all for DH's family, his mom would have died if we would have just ran off and got married. And then having to wait 2 years even more of a PIA The last few months I could not wait for it to all be over, everyone was just being annoying about everything.

But once the day came, it really felt worth it, so just hang in there

I never feel like that except when I have to pay for things!

Kris, I def hear you on the 'right thing to do'. That's the only reason FH wanted a big wedding. He actually hates being the center of attention.
All I care about is being married to him and can't wait for this stress to be over. I'm sure it will be beautiful and we'll have a blast but it's getting there that is driving me crazy.

It's comforting to know this is a normal feeling.

i can totally relate!!! i didnt want a big wedding. i would even have gone to city hall haha
but FH wanted a wedding, and now that we are doing one, im really happy about it and its fun and exciting! so i know we made the right decision, BUT im not happy about everyones comments!!! we are a year into it, and i cant stand the comments anymore, and i just got to the point where i litterally IGNORE the people that say crap. if they say 'oh you should do this', or 'why arent you doing it this way', i say, well thats not what i want to do and walk away, or give them a slight attitude. i actually told someone that was making rude comments about my registry, that 'i dont like when people tell me what to do' may have been rude, but you know what? i think its rude when people make rude comments about my decisions, when its OUR wedding... my skin grows thicker everyday...
sometimes i wish it was all over, but then i think that i want to enjoy this time cause i plan to only do this once! and i also get nervous thinking about the day actually being here, because i still haev sooo much to do.

try to not listen, or not let what people say get to you. its your time to enjoy wedding planning, and have the wedding the way you want to have it. and granted opinions are welcome in decision making, but untimately its your and FH decision to do what you want.