ok so i'm having a real problem and i need advice.Recently things haven't been going smooth w/ us and the fights have been slowly getting worse and he keeps saying these nasty things and it makes me think i might be making a mistake. does anyone feel like this. His own mother asks me if i'm sure i really want to marry her own son. she even sees there is a problem. what doe you do???
serendipity0680
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It is normal to have cold feet. But I would talk with your FI. If you need to talk let me know.
vinnysgrl
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planning a wedding can bring out alot of fights......this is a very stressful time for you and as the wedding gets closer the fights may increase.....if its stress realated i think your fine....but if its deeper issues you should talk to your FH
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There are times when I look and FH and think to myself is this the man I want to spend the rest of my life with when he aggravates me. There are times when he feels the same. Both FH and I talk about the things that annoys us or upsets us. Talk to FH and let him know how you feel.
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I would make an appointment to see a relationship counselor. These issues are more common then you think, but a lot of people ignore them or just don't know how to deal with things, and that's when relationships don't work out. It is a small price to pay to ensure success in your relationship. Good luck!
Preshy7
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what are you fighting about exactly? the worst fights dh and i got into were about
1- guest list 2- dancing lessons 3- tuxedos
I will tell you that these fights are very normal...and also that wedding planning really brings out the worst in people. The WORST.
I am sure DH and I have thought 'wow this is so stressful, i hope when we get married its not like this' because I know that I definitely felt that.
However, I am now married 13 days...and since day 1, a great weight was lifted off me. Our relationship is wonderful...and blissful..we are happy as clams because there is no wedding stress and we are finally able to get our lives back and concentrate on each other, instead of fighting about wedding garbage..
Try to figure out why you are fighting and what is triggering it....are you picking on him? Is he picking on you? Why? I can tell you that my annoyance with my mil definitely made me pick fights with him, for example.
See what the root of the problem is before you do anything.
I hope it all works out for you!!!! FM me if you need anything
kase21
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It depends on the nature of your fights. If it's over silly things and various wedding related things then it may not be a big deal.. But if it's the kind of fighting where he tears you down and the only real point of the fight is to hurt you and make you feel worthless it's something else.
No matter what anyone tells you, listen to your gut... only you know if something is really and truly wrong. Honestly I always step back and try to look at it like an outsider would or if it were happening to my sister...
Would I be rolling my eyes thinking the fight was just stupid, or would I be ready to kick his a s s because it's just not right.
Good luck.
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Posted by luvmypup
ok so i'm having a real problem and i need advice.Recently things haven't been going smooth w/ us and the fights have been slowly getting worse and he keeps saying these nasty things and it makes me think i might be making a mistake. does anyone feel like this. His own mother asks me if i'm sure i really want to marry her own son. she even sees there is a problem. what doe you do???
is there something going on with him? FH was doing that before he lost his job because he knew things werent going well at work and he didnt want to worry me, so instead he was cold and nasty to me at times....
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Planning a wedding is definitely stressful!
Fh and I have had many fights over planning this wedding. But, you need to take a step back and see if it's the stress from the wedding or an underlying problem. You both need to talk about your feelings. Tell him how you feel, especially since he is saying nasty things to you. Do you think he's talking nasty because of wedding stress? I hope it all works out!!!
VICKYLANE
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wow that some serious stuff.......hope all goes well....
luvmypup
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you know, its not even wedding stress that is bothering us. he is has a terrible temper and very little patience no matter what the subject. This just happened to be the Videographer discussion which i'm not getting.I just dont know anymore. we talk, it gets worse then gets better and starts all over again. Does anyone's FH talk to them not very nice when they fight? I feel like its only me..
