my MOH is kinda telling me that my mom is supposed to do it (or at least pay for it). i know that she is hard on cash so i dont completely mind, but i dont want my mom to have to pay for it all. what do you think?
rojerono
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I have been in a number of weddings, and at each one the BP paid for the shower. A few times the mothers have offered to contribute and the offers were gratefully accepted, but it was never forced. At my best friend's wedding, I paid for almost the entire shower myself.
cantwait84
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i am afraid that they will not have the money ...and will put it on my mom
scappy123
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My MOH and my mom worked together to do the shower. I only have an MOH, so there wasnt really a bp to pay for it. MOH paid for the deposit on the restaurant and the favors. My mom paid for everything else. For my cousins shower, i was her MOH, she had a bigger bp, 7 girls, we all split the cost of the shower with her mom
Tracyann1976
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My mom did it with the MOH and BMs.
Jesses Girl
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usually the mother wants to pay for it...
when i was the MOH for my friend her mom wanted to pay for everything. she felt it was her duty....i tried harddddd to give her money I even tried payin for the favors...and she forced the money on me...
i mean...the MOH n BM help out with the planning and the day of...but depending on the situation teh mom pays for it...like im pretty sure when it comes to my time...my mom is gonna pay.
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I have been in 3 weddings recently and the mom has paid for the shower. The bridal party helps with the planning & games. In one wedding the bridal party bought the prizes, but the MOB insisted on paying us back.
The bridal party pays for the bachelorette party.
HTH!
Marly
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The MOH and BMs plan and pay for shower that's how it's always been done.
Jesses Girl
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Posted by KvsGrl
I have been in 3 weddings recently and the mom has paid for the shower. The bridal party helps with the planning & games. In one wedding the bridal party bought the prizes, but the MOB insisted on paying us back.
The bridal party pays for the bachelorette party.
HTH!
i agree the MOH n BMs pay for the bach party...
but MOB usually takes care of the shower...
i mean it varies. there isnt really a set rule. and it also depends on the MOB's financial situation
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I have always believed the bridal party should pay for the shower. If the mob can help out if she wants to she can. It isn't customary for mob to pay for the shower. It is turning that way because things are getting more and more extravagant.
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i've been in 2 weddings, and each one was different- the first one, her mom wanted to contribute, so we split the cost eqally between the 5 BMs and the MOB... for the second one, it was kind of different. her family is very traditional southern, that the MOB doesn't throw a shower to 'ask' for presents for her own daughter so, the shower was thrown by a neighbor at the nieghbors house. there was 5 BMs, but 3 of them ( including his own sisters) were OOT and didn't even come to the shower, had no part in any of it- so the cost was split between: the neighbor who hosted it, me, and another BM. luckily, it was an at home shower, and we just had light food and it wasn't a huge shower... ETA: for mine, i think my mom paid for the food ( light finger sandwiches and pasta salads) and the BMs paid for favors, cake, etc. my aunt hosted it at her house..
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For my shower my mom paid for it and the Grandmother of the groom contributed ( love Nana's) lol
I am the MOH in my best friends wedding and am stressing a little as to if I am supposed to pay for the entire shower.... I hope not..
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I have only been in two weddings. For my sister's wedding, my sisters and I planned and paid for the shower (my mom helped a little bit). For my cousin's wedding the MOH planned and paid for the entire thing. For my shower, my sisters planned and paid for everything. I think it depends on the situation.
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for all the weddings i have been to/in the mother of the bride has paid for the entire shower. . . i have never been allowed to contribute anything besides my time. . . my mother has already said that no one is allowed to help her with my shower since my MOH just got married and my BM will be getting married only like 2 months before me
july06bride
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My moh helped my mom with the planning but it was mostly my mother ...however MIL helped pay for the hall too...
TnOiOnL
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I know my mom will pay for the shower, but my MOH wouldve paid... She was planning it but my sis-in-laws told her that my mom would have a HUGE part in planning, and paying, for all of it...
If your mom doesnt pay for all of it, and your MOH cant afford to, maybe the entire BP can chip in for it...
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I have been a MOH 2x. The first time was for my best friend and her mother collected about $50 from each of the BM for the shower. Then the 2nd time was for my cousin and my aunt collected $30 from us. I also have been a BM many times and never had to contribute to the shower except for showing up. I guess it all depends on the MOTB and what she wants to do.
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I always have been part of BP that paid for the shower. However, sometimes moms contribute something. At my best friend's shower, the food was all made by her mom's side. At my shower MOG did the decorations herself and my mom paid for the favors. But the BM paid for the food and the place to have it. At every shower, the MOH (who also paid) made sure things ran smoothly and had all the details planned out as to who did what.
Everybody is different. For my shower, I gave the girls a few options of where to have it and gave them prices. (They all live OOT) They chose what they could afford and I booked it. If I had a backyard, I would've loved to have a BBQ. But I can only accomodate about 8 people at time. Tell your MOH to discuss things with the BP and include moms if you want to. This way they can brainstorm on who wants to do what and who can afford what. When everyone is in the planning stages, no one can complain.
