So, after just getting off the phone with my sister, whom I've been trying to see since her bday in August to giver her her present, and still not being able to make plans due to conflicting schedules, I've come to the realization that it's going to be near IMPOSSIBLE to wrangle my entire bridal party together on one day to go shopping for dresses.
I had a few dresses I was looking at, but really, I know I want the Jim Hjelm with the bow, and honestly, don't care to take out 6 girls to see if they feel they look good in it.
So I'm about 3 miliseconds away from calling the girls up, and saying this is your dress. Please report to your nearest bridal store, get measured, and order it by X date.
Inappropriate? All of them have seen the dress, and haven't expressed (much) negative thoughts about it. It's a little expensive, but not to the point where it would be wrong of me to ask them to buy it. I don't want to come off as a biznatch, but ultimately it's my choice anyways, and I think if it's going to be such an issue to coordinate the girls I should just take charge and make the executive decision.
Soon2BMrsC09
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Actually - I dont think thats terrible.. I had wrangled my girls and I had one of them be the dominant 'pack member' and blatantly changed the dress AND the colors.. needless to say - I went with my MOH ALONE and we picked the dress and went back to the right colors.. so no your not wrong to make that executive decision
FuTuRe MrS MaZz
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i dont think its bad... they have all seen the dress... know what to expect... wasnt like you sprung it on them... do what is less stressful for yourself... they have no idea how tough wedding plannin can be until they are actually in that position
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It absolutely doesn't make you a 'zilla at all! Six girls is a lot of women to get to agree on anything! They've all seen pictures of it and no one grumbled too loudly so go ahead and take care of it! Don't feel bad about it all - you're right, it's your decision.
Jennmolloy
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you are defintily not a bridezilla. Your day your wedding you decide. GL
Walkintomymind
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Thats what I did. If I asked for opinions I was afraid I wouldn't like what people would say....so I just sent them the 411.
MaggieLuvsJoe
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I did something similar and it worked out for everyone, do what makes it easier for you.
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I did something similar too. 2 of my bm live upstate and my FSIL works a lot and is unmotivated to do anything but sit in her bed and watch tv. I took my sister and she tried on dresses. Then I sent out an email and asked the girls what they thought. None really had a strong opinion, so I picked what I liked best. When it came time to ordering, I had to harass them a little (other than my sister) to order so that we'd get them in time. I even had to order my FSIL's myself and drop off the deposit and she lives with me!!!
Karsav7096
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I think thats fine I am emailing my BMs there dress choices as long as they all stay with Bill Levkoff Euro Red they can wear whatever dress they want.
megsher
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I did it. My sister and I picked the dress, and then I emailed it to all the other girls. My bridesmaids are spread all over the east coast, and I'm planning from oot as well, so everything is being done online. Honestly, I've been in 6 weddings, and the only one I went dress shopping with is when I was maid of honor.
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not zilla-ish at all, i went with MOH to get the dresses and the rest of the girls went according to their own schedule. I wouldnt worry, just do what you need to do and let them get it together
JamieAnt06202009
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I don't think that's bad. I would definitely lie about the date you want them ordered by...girls always tend to go over that date. I wanted all my girls ordered by October 1st and I still have 2 out of 10 that need to order.
alli3131
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I chose my dresses with only my MOH......I did pick 3 dresses for them to choose from but they had no real say in what they were wearing.
MrsDrinkh20
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not zilla-ish at all! I did this..showed them all the picture and told them this was the dress we were going with! They were fine with it!
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I think you have every right to do that. I am in a wedding in April and the Bride took only her mom and sister to pick out the dress and told the rest of us to go to the Bridal salon and get fitted whenever we get a chance. But to do it by mid Nov.
I have 9 girls in my party and I have NOOO intention on bringing all of them.. ( I'd rather stick needles in my eyes) then to have allll of those girls opinions in my ear that day.. I feel you should either, bring 2 girls with you whose bodies are on different ends of the spectrum or just go with your MOH and decide that way...
Good Luck!!!
azailia
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you could send invitations and make t like a whole day thing... do it in january after the holidays, you have time,
it was hard to get my girls together too, some are from 00t, but i gave them plenty of time to make sure they were available..... after we ordered the dress,i took them out to lunch andgave them one of their gifts!!!!
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I had no trouble getting all but one of my girls together (8 of them), and they all made a decision at RK Bridal within an hour! I think it would be nice if you called around and found the bridal shop with the cheapest price that they could all do a mass order from to help with the cost. They could all do mail order from RK, get it shipped to them, and then get their own alterations. It saves a ton!
PrincyJo
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Not at all.. I would let the girls know that you can bring them to go see it if x or x date work and if not.. just order it up. The dress I last had to get for a wedding was from a j crew catalog.. none of us saw the dress or tried it on before getting it.
gina409
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i dont think at all..if its impossible to get everyone together u r doing the next best thing
Sweeteey51
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not at all. I picked 5 dresses emailed pics of the dresses to the bridal party and told them to vote, majority wins and thats how i got there dress. But the 5 dresses i picked i liked them all, so they all agreed on one dress which made it easy.
