Does your FH or DH do housework?

Jess2 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 12:47 PM

Does your FH or DH do housework?

Mine is home on vacation & not doing ANYTHING today except laying around so I asked him to vacuum (we just got a new vacuum - Hoover windless which I love!) I just called him & asked if he vacuumed & he said he took it out of the closet He's not too bad (he will usually clean up after himself) but he's not that great either (you won't find him cleaning our toilet any time soon!) What's your situation like?

tracyg Posted: Jul 31, 2003 12:58 PM

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FH usually doesn't do anything (my choice really) but his ONE job is dishes.. and even those don't get done for days at a time!! P i $$ es me off!!! I hate having dishes in the sink!

HeatherandNick Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:00 PM

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only on good days and I usually have to bribe him

Julybaby Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:01 PM

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Funny you should ask this question because last night, we had our first fight as newlyweds over this topic. We have this agreement that if one person cooks, the other cleans the kitchen. I cooked Tuesday night, but he didn't clean so I couldn't cook dinner last night (he gets mad if I clean the kitchen when he's supposed to). Last night, he went to bed without cleaning the kitchen from Tuesday night. So I said forget it and I would clean so I can cook myself lunch and dinner today. Apparently me banging around in the kitchen woke him up and he decided that he would clean the kitchen then, even though I was doing it. Then I told him that I'm always taking out the garbage, doing laundry, and cleaning up the living room and dining room. So now he's ****ed off at me - I can't imagine why! We won't talk about the numerous piles of crap he keeps on the bedroom floor!!!

We hired a cleaning lady and everytime she cleans, DH says that he wants to keep the apartment clean. That usually lasts for two days then his crap is everywhere! I also unpacked all of the wedding presents and found a place for most of them. We desperately need a shelf in the living room, bathroom, and kitchen, but he doesn't want to discuss it. Oh, and he has a new hobby - collecting old computer crap! We have 5 computer moniters and two computers. But for some reason, he says that we need all 5, in case there is some national disaster and these extra moniters will get us out of it!!

Thanks for letting me vent!

Niecey Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:03 PM

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yep. He has to with our work and life schedules we both must contribute. I do most of the regular cleaning and cooking.

He does the dishes (but we now have a dishwasher so his life just got a lot easier and I seem to load and unload it - he turns it on though!), garbage, shares in the laundry. I also discovered he is pretty good at cleaning the kitchen and stove top! See what you learn when you make him try!!! He also take care of a lot of the outside chores - like lawn, shrub, patio care.

curly2003 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:05 PM

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Wow, i guess I am the minority. I can genuinely say that FH does clean ALOT! We were at the house last night and he was on his hands and knees scrubbing the floors while I washed the tiles. He loves to look at a clean home (as do I) and he is willing to do his part b/c afterall, it's his too.

Samanthas Mom Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:12 PM

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sometimes, but I prefer he doesnt b/c he is not that good at it so I just have to redo it!

He will take out the garbage and help me vaccuum sometimes

Jeanene Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:13 PM

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LOL - it depends if you are asking me or him!

I would say he doesn't clean much and he would pipe in to remind me he took out the trash last week!

mlp924 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:20 PM

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only when his mommie is coming over!

eroxgirl Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:45 PM

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Mine does laundry, cooks and cleans the bathroom. He won't ever dust or vacuum, but I don't mind doing those things. Its the cooking that I can't stand doing.

CathyB Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:53 PM

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DH & I split all the household chores right now, but we agreed that if I ever become a SAHM, I'll do it all.

michele31 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 01:59 PM

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Scott will do almost any task- if I ask him to. He is the one who vacumns and 9 out of 10 times he empties the dishwasher.That as been since we moved in together. Neither one of us says 'I will NOT do that' since we both live in our home. But he takes the garbage out and brings it to the curb. He has never asked me to do it, so I don't offer.
And since I am pregnant, he nows has to clean the bathtubs. Of course, he doesn't understand why they need to be cleaned every week but he does it and I can hear him making complain sounds the whole time But I don't care. I told him that I clean the bathroom 3X a week- I do- but he has to do the bathtubs only once a week. And we have a lot of ceramic tile so if I sweep it, he will pick up the little piles for me so I don't have to bend down to do it.
I usually do the laundry, since he put my suit jacket in the washer once , but he will fold it and he has to put his own stuff plus the towels/sheets away (they are too high for me to reach normally). We also changed the sheets together every week, and if we are both out of bed in the morning we make it together. Now that being said, I normally ask 'Oh, is the elf stopping by to clean up the counter tonight' since he typically doesn't 'see' that he spilled something on it or I say 'oh, let me know when my elf arrives to take your papers off the table'. That is what I don't get- how does he not 'see' that stuff.

Jordan Posted: Jul 31, 2003 02:02 PM

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FH does WAY more housework than I do. It causes some problems...but nothing major. The way I see it, if his clothes occupy 90% of the laundry, there is NO WAY I'm doing all the laundry. Sorry, I am his fiance, not his maid. He has 2 capable hands and a brain - he did chores at home, he can do them at our home. What's my excuse?, I don't know!

Jess2 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 02:04 PM

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You know what, reading everybody's posts maybe I shouldn't complain because he does do the laundry & throws out garbage. But , ahh, wouldn't it be nice if he did everything!!!!!

ChristineC68 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 02:06 PM

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DH is pretty good and our chores are split pretty evenly.

DH does the dusting and 90% of the vacuuming & garbage pitching. I do the bathroom & kitchen cleaning.

We both do dishes, cook and laundry.

Sasha96 Posted: Jul 31, 2003 02:09 PM

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yes, but I have to tell him what needs to be done. he asked me to just tell him and it seems to be working.

shelzyp Posted: Jul 31, 2003 02:13 PM

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when we lived in an appartment he did alot, but sionce we moved in with my parents, he doesn't do anything.

Scoop Posted: Jul 31, 2003 05:09 PM

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He will do things if I ask him too only.

yabbobay Posted: Jul 31, 2003 05:25 PM

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DH does so much!!! this only started after he was laid off....but he has kept it...he actually loves to vaccuum...but I do NOT let him do laundry...he doesn't remember to look at tags and separate colors...