Dont know what to do....

Kate09 Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:18 PM

Dont know what to do....

Ok so I am a regular poster but I made up this account because I feel a little embarrassed....

So my ring is a CZ and it bothers me a little because I think you can totally tell that it is not real. So my question is do I ask FH if we can replace the CZ with a diamond since we now have some more money than we he proposed. I feel bad and dont want to insult him, but I just think hes a boy and doesnt think its a big deal.....

Im a Pepper Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:24 PM

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I'm sorry that you're not completely happy with your ring! Would he be offended or upset if you spoke to him and told him you wanted to replace the CZ with a diamond? Or is that not something that would bother him? I think if you explained that you'd rather have a diamond, I'm sure he'd understand! Especially if you're in a better financial position now than you were when you first got engaged.

Good luck!

JennyAPH Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:32 PM

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Talk to him if it bothers you... if u are in a better financial situation then he will probably be more than happy to get you a diamond

pandafish519 Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:33 PM

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i would definitely talk to him about it. i'm sure he will be open to the idea. good luck!

sofreakingexcited Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:34 PM

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I would tell him how you feel. If it bothers you now, it is likely to keep bothering you. I would tell him and then go from there.

MrsGarcia Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:37 PM

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If you think he would understand and its something that wouldn't effect your finances then deff bring it up to him. As far as being embarrassed about it. Don't be! More girls then you probally know have cz's or diamondiques(sp?) and just don't want to admit it.. To be honest its no big deal either way.. Whether its real or not, its still from the heart and still has the same meaning.

Good luck though

coldasice217 Posted: Oct 22, 2008 09:44 PM

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Well, if I was in your position I would probably want to say something...

BUT, just thinking of how my own FH would react, I'm going to say maybe reconsider saying something. It could be a pride thing or it could blow up that you're being 'greedy' or not 'responsible' with your money. I'm not saying that you are any of these things at all, because I would feel the same exact way. I'm just saying that my own FH tends to have typically male reactions like that, and maybe yours might too.

Mich2585 Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:02 PM

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if FH knows how important having a diamond is to you ... i think you should be able to talk to him about it. i would just be think about what i was going to say and how i was going to say it before i said it ... so that i wouldnt hurt his feelings.

azailia Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:09 PM

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i would do it for our 1 year annivenrsary... so that way it doesnt seem you are unhappy..ya know? make it like a milestone.... does this make sense?

its my bedtime,

i dont make sense when tired...

PrincyJo Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:13 PM

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I would just talk to him.. I'm sure if he knew you were truly upset and are financially in a better situation now, he'll be game for upgrading!

geegee827 Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:17 PM

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I would just tell him how much you love him and how happy you are to be marrying him and then say that while you'll always treasure the ring he gave you, you'd really like to have a real diamond now. I'm sure because he's a boy, he won't 'get' it, but I'm sure he'll still want to make you happy.

Good luck!

gina409 Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:19 PM

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i would talk 2 him...always seems to me things r better said than left inside...i would just say u know i love this ring but since we have some extra money etc etc...good luck

MaggieLuvsJoe Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:21 PM

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I definitely think you should mention to him that you love the ring he gave you but you want an upgrade, tell him you're not trying to hurt his feeling you're just trying to be honest with him.

good luck

flairforfashion Posted: Oct 22, 2008 10:57 PM

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I think it's alright if you talk to him and explain to him that you love this but being that you are better off financially that you would like a diamond. I am sure he would understand.

FuTuRe MrS MaZz Posted: Oct 22, 2008 11:01 PM

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i would casually go looking for your wedding bands and then mention getting a diff ring/diamond for your ering and see what happens ... point out some you really like and see if he bites

MrsList09 Posted: Oct 23, 2008 09:08 AM

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Maybe you can just get a really really nice wedding band and then not wear your engagement ring. I can imagine that it ***** not being happy with your e-ring but with the wedding not TOO far away, maybe stick it out and see what happens. Maybe FH will surprise you with something different before the wedding!