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Why dont you sit the FH down and let him know how hard it is to begin with to get along with in-laws and that despite the past, FAMILY IS FAMILY and they are soon to be YOUR family too.
Once you get him to understand that one day (as big of a day as it is) isnt worth your future children growing up with a strained relationship with his family....I would then call the SIL yourself, ask her out to coffee, and let her know that although you can't say you understand what she went through with her parents divorce, you do understand that family is important, and that you want to start your new life being close with your NEW family.
Despite the outcome of that conversation, his parents will then know you made an effort and in the end, that is all that matters :)
GOOD LUCK!
Once you get him to understand that one day (as big of a day as it is) isnt worth your future children growing up with a strained relationship with his family....I would then call the SIL yourself, ask her out to coffee, and let her know that although you can't say you understand what she went through with her parents divorce, you do understand that family is important, and that you want to start your new life being close with your NEW family.
Despite the outcome of that conversation, his parents will then know you made an effort and in the end, that is all that matters :)
GOOD LUCK!
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I would really sit down with him and tell him whats going on ..b/c you dont want to look bad to his family and he really NEEDS to speak with his sister too...tell him to be the bigger person here and just talk to her b/c the longer that this holds out the worse it will get and if the family now thinks that you didnt invite her ...and tell him that its really not fair to you and YOU dont want to be in the middle of this ....and i would try to get the together and work it out ...that is a stupid reason to fight ...good luck..i hope it works out
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Good Luck with everything... Weddings are such a BIG DEAL that people try to make it about themselves as often as possible.
I am a firm believer, that as important as your wedding is, family is ALWAYS 1000000 TIMES more important....especially if you plan on having children in the future :)
I am a firm believer, that as important as your wedding is, family is ALWAYS 1000000 TIMES more important....especially if you plan on having children in the future :)
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You definitely need to talk to FH. If that doesn't work I would go see his family alone and explain how you are trying to get him to talk to his sister and that you are not the bad person. Maybe you and his family can try to figure out a way on how to solve this problem. Hope everything works out.
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I agree you and FH need to have a talk. Fams can be very wierd they always think its the womans fault because they believe we heavily influence the men so if he made that decision it because of you or you didnt push him enough.but they need to know this isnt the case. One day he prob will mend things with his sis and he will regret not having her in fam pics and missing such a special moment in his life. esp if they were close before the fight. and you guys should try and talk with his sis before the wedding and invites are sent and try and mend things.
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Try to have them over to talk about this. You and FH should sit down and straiten it all out with them peacefully. FH should clarify who has been making these decisions. If he wants to make these choices, he should do everything he can to make it clear that it is all him. Also, I don't know the family obviously, but maybe he really should try to fix things with her. What would happen if God forbid they never got the chance? No matter what, I will pray for you and hope that everything gets worked out. Good luck! ![]()
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Thanks guys. I appreiciate it!! It is so stressful. I talked to Fh after all of this and he says that it is a good idea. I am meeting with the parents to discuss my issue and let them know that this was purely his decision. WISH ME LUCK!!
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Good luck...that is too funny that he will now talk to her...its a step foward and thats always good! ![]()
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Posted by futuremrsskarren
Thanks guys. I appreiciate it!! It is so stressful. I talked to Fh after all of this and he says that it is a good idea. I am meeting with the parents to discuss my issue and let them know that this was purely his decision. WISH ME LUCK!!
GL i hope it all works out...and make sure fh lets them know the truth as well
