Dreams about ex's??

Do/have any of you had dreams about ex boyfriends.. like we're in love again dreams?? Wierd, they were both jerks.OMG, what is all that about, for the past 3 nights and 2 ex boyfriends i think maybe I'm just getting it all out of my system for the big day???!!!????

I just had one last week. Not sex dreams though. It was just weird. He treated me like crap and so did his family but in the dream we were happy and his family loved me!!!
It was very weird. I woke up and felt like I did something wrong!!!!!!

u mean i'm not alone in this?????? thank God!!!

I think it's normal!

When I first got engaged I was having a huge amount of dreams about my ex - and he was terrible to me! Dreams about going back to him, kissing him, running into him, and I was so upset by it.

My therapist says this is normal-it's the subconcious letting go of the past, going over the 'what if's' and playing out things that could now never happen now that I am marrying someone else. She suggested looking into the real issue-my unfinished business with him.

Honestly, what made the dreams stop? I wrote him a letter and said all the things I had never gotten to say. I got closure, and my subconcios put him to rest!

I would suggest looking into your 'closure factor' with the people you are dreaming about. Write them down in as much detail as you can remember, and alot of times, the meaning of the dream will become very clear!

I truly believe that dreams are the biggest peek we have into what is really going on deep inside.

Or I could just be overanalyzing. That would be highly likely as well. Either way, you are not alone!

OMG it's insane, I shouldn't have said sexual, but we were in love again, and it was SO WIERD, I love my FI I think it's just the subconcious saying that we need to get them out of our system.. hmm.. didn't know they were still there.. GLAD TO HEAR That you are all experiencing this

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I truly believe that dreams are the biggest peek we have into what is really going on deep inside.

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Your NOT overanalyzing, your completely RIGHT..


I do need closure I guess, I wake up wondering what in the heck is going on???

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Posted by Bunnymonkey

I think it's normal!

When I first got engaged I was having a huge amount of dreams about my ex - and he was terrible to me! Dreams about going back to him, kissing him, running into him, and I was so upset by it.

My therapist says this is normal-it's the subconcious letting go of the past, going over the 'what if's' and playing out things that could now never happen now that I am marrying someone else. She suggested looking into the real issue-my unfinished business with him.

Honestly, what made the dreams stop? I wrote him a letter and said all the things I had never gotten to say. I got closure, and my subconcios put him to rest!

I would suggest looking into your 'closure factor' with the people you are dreaming about. Write them down in as much detail as you can remember, and alot of times, the meaning of the dream will become very clear!

I truly believe that dreams are the biggest peek we have into what is really going on deep inside.

Or I could just be overanalyzing. That would be highly likely as well. Either way, you are not alone!

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Did you send the letter? What happened after that if you dont mind me asking? I have been thinking of writing a letter and not actually sending it.

I sent a version of the letter vie email (without all the personal insults and violent cursing )

He responded, and (halfheartedly) apologized for the way he treated me throughout our 3 years together!!!

I was shocked. He admitted to alot of his problems and flaws as a human, and in turn, I apologized for the way I had behaved as well.

Then, by the end of the conversation he called me a compulsive monogomist and said I was addicted to relationships and that was the only reason I was getting married a year and a half after breaking up with him. okay....

So, obviously, he is still hurting, and I ended the conversation there and wished him well-but I never want to see him or talk to him again. And neither does my subconcious. Now I just feel sorry for him as a human, and I don't hate him at all.

I can't say everyones situation would turn out the same way, but I really think letting someone know, in a well-written letter how hurtful they were, is a great idea. And the HUGEST relief.

ETA:Even just writing the letter was a relief. You don't have to send it. This kind of 'therapy' is widely accepted by professionals and encouraged for any sort of situation where you are harboring anger and resentment. Don't hold that stuff in! It's not yours, it's his!

Just find a quiet time for yourself, when FH is not around, and really let it all out-cry, sob, write the letter, talk to him verbally, and hit a pillow with a bat (another fave of mine) You will feel amazing aftr it is done, I promise


(sorry for the long reply, I am studying to be a psychoanalyst one day-this stuff intregues me!)

See I dont think I could send him the letter for 2 reasons. 1 - I dont want him to think I still give a sh!t about him after over 4 years since we broke up and 2 - I dont want to communicate with him cause I wouldnt like if FH communicated with one of his exes.


I think I will write a letter and NOT send it. Glad yours turned out pretty well and you have some much needed closure!

OMG!! I'm not sending a letter NO WAY!! I was thinking more, and I dno't want to write a letter, i don't have anything to say, they were assholes now GET OUT OF MY DREAMS

I had a dream about my boss for the summer who is ridiculously hot and had this great body...he told me in the dream that he wish he would have known me first and he backed me into a refrigerator about to kiss me...and in the dream he was my FH's brother.
I woke up, nest to FH mind you, and I thought I was going to flip out. I think it's completely normal. At least I hope it is