Is anyone specifying dress for their wedding and if so what are you doing? My friends from PA/South NJ/ NH have a very different sense of formal. At their weddings I try to dress down and am still usually overdressed. They were dresses to weddings that I would wear out to a casual dinner to 'formal' weddings. So I wanted to make our wedding black tie optional. I figured by having a very formal dress code my friends from college would at least put on suits and cocktail dresses. But my father is fighting me because here that means people rent tuxes, and he doesn't want to ask his friends to do that.
I don't know how to balance the NY/PA guest list and get everyone to be formally dressed.
NickandTara426
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I know what you mean! FH and I went to a wedding in PA and we were over dressed! I think if you write formal it means a suit and a nice dress. Black tie usually means tuxes.
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I personally am not a fan of black tie optional (totally JMO - many people are opting for a black tie optional wedding and there's nothing wrong with that) because I want my guests to be able to pull something they already own out of the closet. But if you go that route, I have a feeling the NY people will wind up coming dressed extremely formal and the PA people (I live in PA now so I know exactly what you mean) will come dressed in semi-formal attire. I wonder if there is some sort of wording that doesn't suggest 'black tie' but that suggests formal attire?
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Posted by Future Pepper
I personally am not a fan of black tie optional (totally JMO - many people are opting for a black tie optional wedding and there's nothing wrong with that) because I want my guests to be able to pull something they already own out of the closet. But if you go that route, I have a feeling the NY people will wind up coming dressed extremely formal and the PA people (I live in PA now so I know exactly what you mean) will come dressed in semi-formal attire. I wonder if there is some sort of wording that doesn't suggest 'black tie' but that suggests formal attire?
That's a good call...maybe semi-formal?
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Posted by Future Pepper
I personally am not a fan of black tie optional (totally JMO - many people are opting for a black tie optional wedding and there's nothing wrong with that) because I want my guests to be able to pull something they already own out of the closet. But if you go that route, I have a feeling the NY people will wind up coming dressed extremely formal and the PA people (I live in PA now so I know exactly what you mean) will come dressed in semi-formal attire. I wonder if there is some sort of wording that doesn't suggest 'black tie' but that suggests formal attire?
Thats what I am looking for, I really don't want black tie, but I want people from PA to dress up in nice suits and cocktail dresses. Not the stuff they usually wear for weddings. At one friends wedding (in Northern NJ where people do dress up) she said formal and one girl wore a sweatshirt material skirt, no joke.
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Posted by MLAngelo
Thats what I am looking for, I really don't want black tie, but I want people from PA to dress up in nice suits and cocktail dresses. Not the stuff they usually wear for weddings. At one friends wedding (in Northern NJ where people do dress up) she said formal and one girl wore a sweatshirt material skirt, no joke.
That's crazy! I can't believe someone would show up to any wedding wearing that. But I think that's just what they do at weddings around there and, where they're from, it's not disrespectful I guess. But I know what you mean about you wanting to make sure that they are dressed appropriately. I would probably just put 'Formal Attire' and then spread the word to guests in that region that formal really does mean formal.
