Drinks

My FW and I were trying to save everywhere we could. So we had decided to forgo the top shelf liquor and have only beer, wine and champagne.

Do you think this is a mistake..?

Not to sound rude, but i think most people at NY weddings (especially at place like the the R-C hotel) expect to have full liquor service.

I think you should find another corner to cut.

is there another corner you could cut? i agree that people expect liqour and not having it is noticeable.

to be honest, yes I think this is a mistake. I hate to say it because YOUR wedding is not a reason for people to drink, but lets face it, people are going to want a 7 and 7 or vodka cranberry. I for 1 like beer but at weddings and most formal occasions I usually will only have 'drinks.' I find it more classy (if that makes sense) to be drinking a drink over a beer.

Budgeting for weddings is not easy and I for 1 am looking for any option possible to save money.

I appreciate the feedback from my fh's post. One big thing he forgot to mention is that a majority of our reception guests (90%) are our church friends who don't get liquored up.

And... being that my parents are very religious and conservative...they don't believe in ANY alcohol so I'm risking A LOT by even having minimal alcohol...behind their backs. We're having two separate receptions so my parents won't be at this one... but there's a chance that word would get back to them.

I personally don't think it's a problem to have a limited bar with the crowd that we're having but I think FH is concerned...

-grace

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Posted by amazon_gracie

I appreciate the feedback from my fh's post. One big thing he forgot to mention is that a majority of our reception guests (90%) are our church friends who don't get liquored up.

And... being that my parents are very religious and conservative...they don't believe in ANY alcohol so I'm risking A LOT by even having minimal alcohol...behind their backs. We're having two separate receptions so my parents won't be at this one... but there's a chance that word would get back to them.

I personally don't think it's a problem to have a limited bar with the crowd that we're having but I think FH is concerned...

-grace

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Do you have the option of running a tab? That way, you are not necessarily putting the liquor out there, but whoever wants a drink can indulge. If people are not going to be big drinkers, it may save you some $$$$

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Posted by amazon_gracie

I appreciate the feedback from my fh's post. One big thing he forgot to mention is that a majority of our reception guests (90%) are our church friends who don't get liquored up.

And... being that my parents are very religious and conservative...they don't believe in ANY alcohol so I'm risking A LOT by even having minimal alcohol...behind their backs. We're having two separate receptions so my parents won't be at this one... but there's a chance that word would get back to them.

I personally don't think it's a problem to have a limited bar with the crowd that we're having but I think FH is concerned...

-grace

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Before reading this, I was going to agree with others who said that this was a mistake. However, with the crowd that you are explaining,I think that a limited bar would not be bad. I don't think I would spend a lot of money if less than 10% of the guests will utilize the bar.

ETA: I just read your FW's post.

in your case, it makes sense to cut it out.

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Posted by dleeny

ETA: I just read your FW's post.

in your case, it makes sense to cut it out.

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I agree

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Posted by amazon_gracie

I appreciate the feedback from my fh's post. One big thing he forgot to mention is that a majority of our reception guests (90%) are our church friends who don't get liquored up.

And... being that my parents are very religious and conservative...they don't believe in ANY alcohol so I'm risking A LOT by even having minimal alcohol...behind their backs. We're having two separate receptions so my parents won't be at this one... but there's a chance that word would get back to them.

I personally don't think it's a problem to have a limited bar with the crowd that we're having but I think FH is concerned...

-grace

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In that case just have wine and beer. skip the hard liqour or have a cash bar for the hard liquor. I think you know the crowd better than us!

btw did u go to science?

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Posted by ItalGrkWedding

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Posted by amazon_gracie

I appreciate the feedback from my fh's post. One big thing he forgot to mention is that a majority of our reception guests (90%) are our church friends who don't get liquored up.

And... being that my parents are very religious and conservative...they don't believe in ANY alcohol so I'm risking A LOT by even having minimal alcohol...behind their backs. We're having two separate receptions so my parents won't be at this one... but there's a chance that word would get back to them.

I personally don't think it's a problem to have a limited bar with the crowd that we're having but I think FH is concerned...

-grace

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Do you have the option of running a tab? That way, you are not necessarily putting the liquor out there, but whoever wants a drink can indulge. If people are not going to be big drinkers, it may save you some $$$$

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That's a great idea. Then everyone (meaning you and FH) would both be happy, you wouldn't have the full open bar since 90% of your guests aren't drinkers, and he doesn't need to worry about whether guests are going to expect alcohol.

ETA: And you wouldn't be paying as much as a full open bar!

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Posted by ali120206

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Posted by ItalGrkWedding

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Posted by amazon_gracie

I appreciate the feedback from my fh's post. One big thing he forgot to mention is that a majority of our reception guests (90%) are our church friends who don't get liquored up.

And... being that my parents are very religious and conservative...they don't believe in ANY alcohol so I'm risking A LOT by even having minimal alcohol...behind their backs. We're having two separate receptions so my parents won't be at this one... but there's a chance that word would get back to them.

I personally don't think it's a problem to have a limited bar with the crowd that we're having but I think FH is concerned...

-grace

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Do you have the option of running a tab? That way, you are not necessarily putting the liquor out there, but whoever wants a drink can indulge. If people are not going to be big drinkers, it may save you some $$$$

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That's a great idea. Then everyone (meaning you and FH) would both be happy, you wouldn't have the full open bar since 90% of your guests aren't drinkers, and he doesn't need to worry about whether guests are going to expect alcohol.

ETA: And you wouldn't be paying as much as a full open bar!

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I think this is a great idea. it sounds like this option would save you the most money, if most people don't drink anyway.