Dumb STD question

I know when we mail out the invitations, unmarried people can get addressed:
Mr. John Doe and Guest

What about the Save the Date?
Mr. John Doe and Guest ~or~
Mr. John Doe?

TIA

I didn't mark it with 'and guest', because I thought it was informal. It's just a heads up, the actual invitation should say 'and guest'.

I didn't mark it with 'and guest', because I thought it was informal. It's just a heads up, the actual invitation should say 'and guest'.

Thanks! I thought it was Guest...would have been terible if I had to do them all over again

do NOT add the and guest. You never know if you're going to have to cut back on your guest list later on. This way you still have the option of not inviting people with guests.

Grteat point! Thanks!

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Posted by Jennifer907

and guest! I sent my STDs out months ago and I still haven't heard the end of it from my FMIL that I didn't do 'and guest'. It wasn't 'proper' and I offended people apparently. Funny, everyone I talked to didn't care...

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Actually, your FMIL is incorrect - what you did was proper. You don't put 'and guest' on STD envelopes. STD envelopes bear the name of the person receiving it only. (Just like the outer envelope of an invitation)

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Posted by 2008bride

I didn't mark it with 'and guest', because I thought it was informal. It's just a heads up, the actual invitation should say 'and guest'.

Thanks! I thought it was Guest...would have been terible if I had to do them all over again

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The *inner* envelope would say 'and Guest.'

Unless you don't have an inner envelope, 'and guest' never goes on the outer envelope.

I don't think we will have an inner envelope...but let me get this straight!
If there IS an inner envelope, outer envelope just has Mr. John Doe and innder envelope has Mr. John Doe and Guest

If there is no inner envelope, outer envelope has Mr. John Doe and guest

All these little details could drive you nuts Thanks for the info~

For a STD, there is no inner envelope (unless you are doing something ultra fancy, but I've never heard of it).

You do NOT put 'and Guest' on STD's. They are meant for YOUR guests to know about your wedding date - when they get their actual invitation, they will see that they are invited with a guest because on the outside envelope it will say Mr. (or Ms.) Smith and on the INSIDE envelope it will say Mr. (or Ms.) Smith and Guest.

If you opt not to use inner envelopes for your wedding invitations, then you would write Mr. (or Ms.) Smith and Guest on the outside one.

But going back to the original question - no 'and Guest' for the STD.

For STD I wouldn't put and guest. The person whom you addressed it to is the one that needs to know the date because that is the person you really want there. Once the invitation comes and says and guest then they can ask the person they want to take as a guest to go at that time.

If it is a couple that is not married but have been together or dating for a while you can either send one to each or write Mr. John Doe and Ms. Judy Smith on the STD and invitation.

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Posted by laural2979

do NOT add the and guest. You never know if you're going to have to cut back on your guest list later on. This way you still have the option of not inviting people with guests.

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exactly!

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Posted by Kara and Todd

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Posted by Jennifer907

and guest! I sent my STDs out months ago and I still haven't heard the end of it from my FMIL that I didn't do 'and guest'. It wasn't 'proper' and I offended people apparently. Funny, everyone I talked to didn't care...

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Actually, your FMIL is incorrect - what you did was proper. You don't put 'and guest' on STD envelopes. STD envelopes bear the name of the person receiving it only. (Just like the outer envelope of an invitation)

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Thank you!!!! I soooo want to print this out and show it to her!!!! SHe's driving me nuts. The other day she tells me she needs to show me how to address the RD invites. I wanted to shove one down her throat!

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Posted by laural2979

do NOT add the and guest. You never know if you're going to have to cut back on your guest list later on. This way you still have the option of not inviting people with guests.

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Good Point!!!!!!