E Party should FMIL.....

Hey Ladies,

Quick ques, my wonderful FMIL is throwing our E party. We allowed them to pick the venue but they asked our opinion b/f they booked. I think they did a great job picking & I am super psyched at their choice, Irish Coffee Pub.

I have had one or two friends say I should sit back & let her run the show since she is paying for it. I'm not 100% into that idea, I am a former event planner and have my own idea how events should run but especially how I want my & FH's party to go. Now there has been no suggestion by her whatsoever that we wont be involved but I am wondering if I should back off and leave it all in her hands....thoughts?

I would let her know that you'd like to help. If she accepts your offer, great! If not, then sit back and let it be. You'll have plenty of other things to plan

Yes it would be more gracious to let her handle all the details.

It sounds like she is off to a good start! Also it seems she will ask for your input when she needs it.

As an event planner, I can empathize with you! I think you can choose to view handle this one of three ways.

Let her throw you and FH a party honoring the two of you, which is a surprise to you in every detail.

or

Let her lead the way and make suggestions or ask to see her progress by showing your interest and asking questions, allowing your point of view and your opinions to be heard, while letting her run with her own vision.

or

Sit down with her and basically tell her what you want and what is important to you and leave it in her hands. If she's throwing it for you, you can't very well make demands if you aren't contributing, but you can certainly be heard.

MY FILS paid for our party, but I helped out with everything!