Emergency Invite Question- Who put names on...

sun86moon Posted: Dec 09, 2003 07:02 PM

Emergency Invite Question- Who put names on...

inner envelopes? Should this be something I skimp on or not? I need immediate help on this! I am paying someone to do it on computer for me.

Moehick Posted: Dec 09, 2003 07:43 PM

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I didn't, I don't think people will notice or care. I have received lots of invites without it.

sun86moon Posted: Dec 09, 2003 09:59 PM

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bump, help, please!

palebride Posted: Dec 09, 2003 10:00 PM

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i'm going to do it - but it's a personal choice!

Smolokoff Posted: Dec 09, 2003 10:03 PM

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According to etiquette books I've been reading about this same stuff, you should put names on the inside, such as 'Mr. and Mrs. Sullivan' or even 'Daniel and Allison Sullivan', but it isn't required. As long as all necessary names are on the outside envelope, it should be fine.

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Dec 09, 2003 10:05 PM

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I am doing it b/c I think they are a great idea -

One of the things I like about them is that you use them to address EXACTLY WHO you want to invite -so if you are not inviting kids then it will be clear on the inside envelope

palebride Posted: Dec 09, 2003 10:06 PM

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that is a good point - you can personalize the inner envelope a little more and put first names of the specific people invited! clears up confusion!
something to think about

dee6580 Posted: Dec 09, 2003 10:07 PM

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I used names on my inner envelopes. It made it look finished.
I did on the inside Mr & Mrs Jack SoandSo

This site helped me too:
Verse It

babybride Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:02 AM

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I plan on addressing the inner envelopes too. I think it is a nice touch.

Boop2704 Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:57 AM

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We put everyones first names on the inner envelope. We wanted to make it personal and when all was finished it really gave them that extra added special touch, like we took the time to personally invite them. Its a personal choice, i had wanted to just skip it, but mom wouldn't let me. I am glad she jumped in.

btrflygrl Posted: Dec 10, 2003 08:57 AM

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I am putting names on the inner envelopes because we are inviting children...from what I understand, the inner envelope can be first names or the way you know someone (IE: our best man is JAson, but we all call him Jay, so the inner envelope will say Jay but the outer will say Jason). Children are listed in inner envelopes only, ie:

outer: Mr and Mrs Smith
inner: John and Mary
Bobby
Julie

sun86moon Posted: Dec 11, 2003 12:05 AM

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Thanks everyone for the advice!

gertyrae Posted: Dec 11, 2003 12:59 AM

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I did it myself only cuz it seemed to be the thing to do. Besides, if you want to be certain as to who gets invited, that's the best way to handle it.

Lisa04 Posted: Dec 11, 2003 09:15 AM

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Thanks dee6580 the website verse it is very helpful!!

oakslady Posted: Dec 11, 2003 11:36 AM

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i went out and bought this great book - weddings for dumb brides and it gives me step by step how to address everything - so i am putting names on the inside basically because my book told me to - that is lame huh?
oh well - want to get it right

Betty Posted: Dec 11, 2003 11:38 AM

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I did it. Outside was more formal and I wanted the inside less formal Aunt.... etc

Personal choice

Jen_n_Dale Posted: Dec 11, 2003 12:27 PM

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I am so glad someone asked this because I was wondering about the inner envelope. Mr. & Mrs. John Doe Or Jane & John. Or is it John & Jane??? Like people care as much as the LIW brides.

usuk2004 Posted: Dec 11, 2003 12:39 PM

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I didn't have inner envelopes b/c FH ordered invitations without them. I was pretty upset, although no one seems to mind. Here's why you need them according to me:

I had to address the outside envelopes
Ms. Jane Doe and Guest

And Guest should not go on the outside envelope. Also, I had some guests who have serious significant others, but do not live with them. I had to address outside envelope to Mr. John Doe and Ms. Jane Deer. This doesn't make sense b/c the guest doens't really live there.

Proper ettiquette according to Craine's says outside envelopes should say:

Mr. and Mrs. John Doe

inside then says

Mr. and Mrs. Doe

If they have children you add their first names only underneath:

Mr. and Mrs. Doe
Bobby, John Jr, Susie

The reasoning behind all of this was that historically a butler or servant would receive the mail and discard the outer envelope, which was considered too coarse for the master or mistress of the household to handle. Those invited were presented with the invitation in the inside envelope only.

Good luck!