do I have to give them back if theres no engagement?
20mrsc10
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i think you're technically supposed to..
soontobecruz
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Personally I would return anything that wasn't wasn't used.
My sister's first wedding was cancelled after her shower and this is what she did.
christine2010
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Unfortunately yes you are suppose to return the gifts.
Soon2bShea
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even money???
AngnShaun
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Were they cash gifts or like gifts off the registry?
Soon2bShea
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Posted by AngnShaun
Were they cash gifts or like gifts off the registry?
both...some of the registry gifts were used
soontobecruz
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Did you spend the money towards the wedding? If so then I wouldn't attempt to return it you lost it to sadly. If you banked it then I would return it.
GR2010
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even money???
Yeah unfortunately even money. I called off an engagement going back 5 years and I had to return $8k to people. I was writing out checks for days. Gifts are supposed to go back too.
ETA: the reasoning is that someday you will get married and these friends and family are going to have to give you gifts again...
AngnShaun
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Posted by AngnShaun
Were they cash gifts or like gifts off the registry?
both...some of the registry gifts were used
I would return the unused gifts and the cash
FutureCap
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if you can i guess you should.
my friend called off her wedding last year about 2 months before and i never received anything. Honestly, i was not offended, I was just happy she made the right decision and that I was not going to have to give $300 or more for a wedding gift when it seemed like a very questionable relationship.
Ivansgirl
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I call ed a wedding three months before .... our engagement was a year and ahalf and we didn't give any of the gifts back we were living together and it all was opened or lost on deposits. I hadn't had a shower yet. I f I did I would return those gifts.
Becca2010
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Was there an eparty or did people just send gifts when they found out you were enagaged?
laurenandmike618
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are you sure you want to rush into that?? i read your post from this morning but is there ANY chance FH will come around??
FallBride2010
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I guess you technically should. But I would NEVER expect a gift back. The person is already going throuhg a rough time, so the last thing I would want is for them to worry about returning a gift!
kris_gets_hitched
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Posted by AngnShaun
Posted by Soon2bShea
Posted by AngnShaun
Were they cash gifts or like gifts off the registry?
both...some of the registry gifts were used
I would return the unused gifts and the cash
Same here. But you don't have to do anything immediately. I'm sure anyone that gave you an e-gift is more concerned with your well-being and your time to heal than getting back something.
Take your time, see what happens. No need to worry about this right now.
runnerbride1023
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maybe someone can help do that for you so you do not have to?
marinai7
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I would return the gifts and money. Just take your time. I'm sure people aren't going to be knocking down your door. Hope everything works out sweetie.
