Engagement Party Question

MichaelsGirl Posted: Apr 20, 2003 02:21 AM

Engagement Party Question

Do people usually give party favors at an engagement party, and if so, what should I give?

jags77 Posted: Apr 20, 2003 03:46 AM

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There was a post about this previously. I think some were saying that you should have favors, others saying no. We are having an eng party in a few weeks and I am not doing favors. We have about 230 people coming- I can't have that as an added expense. But since the party is Mother's day weekend, we were thinking of honoring the mothers there by giving a flower or something to each of them and a bouquet to both are moms.

Rob-luvs-me Posted: Apr 20, 2003 08:04 AM

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I looked it up and etiquette wise you don't have to give favors- but should you? There are plenty of people on here who will tell you it is rude NOT to give them. I don't agree with that at all.

My parents are throwing us ours on the 26th - my mom decided to go with simple votive candles - my friend's BM's did this as well for her shower - and it cost them very little to do!

missmmpr Posted: Apr 20, 2003 08:30 AM

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I had a casual bbq in my backyard and I did not give favors. My friend had hers at a catering hall, and she gave out those personalized chocolate bars from Hershey. I do not think favors are necessary...

soon2bmrs2004 Posted: Apr 20, 2003 08:32 AM

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Some people do and some people don't.
If you decided to do so I think it shouldd be something small. Like the votive candle idea or something like that. Nothing over the top.

Olgaki Posted: Apr 20, 2003 08:43 AM

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I agree with something small - but I would def. give.

kelly6273 Posted: Apr 20, 2003 09:09 AM

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My girlfriend wrapped Hershey Kisses in tulle with ribbon and attached a note that said...
'HUGS AND KISSES FROM THE FUTURE MR. & MRS.'
Then they put their names and their wedding date below it. I thought it was the cutest idea!

allure Posted: Apr 20, 2003 09:11 AM

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Just wanted to say welcome I would love it if i got a favor at an E-Party

cw0904 Posted: Apr 20, 2003 01:59 PM

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My eparty was Friday and we gave favors. For my family and family friends it is RUDE not to give favors. For every party my parents have thrown they gave out favors so it was only appropriate for FH and I to do the same.
I think its a matter of preference if your family does it or not.

junebride04 Posted: Apr 20, 2003 02:18 PM

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We had our e-party a few months ago and we gave out Godiva box chocolates for favors. HOwever, we also had a pretty formal e-party so I think favors are expected. I think it is a nice gesture and you don't have to do something so $$$, but I think something would be appreciated. Personally, I would consider it rude not to give a favor.

jess2504 Posted: Apr 20, 2003 02:45 PM

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In my opinion, I don't feel it is rude not to give a favor, but it is a nice touch that adds to the party. At my eparty I gave out small boxes of chocolates with our names and the date of the party on the box.

jessnjoey Posted: Apr 20, 2003 11:19 PM

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I had my engagement party in my FMIL backyard with a tent last summer. The theme was hearts so my FMIL insisted we give hearts candles with our names on ribbon around them. I didn't think it was necessary because it was informal. I'm actually not giving favors for my wedding. I think that it's a waste of money and many people don't even use what you give. I agree though that it depends on your family and your traditions. Remember what you're celebrating and do what makes you feel happy and comfortable. Good luck!