Engagment party assistance please....................

Lisafer1973 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 06:51 PM

Engagment party assistance please....................

Ok so I am engaged less then a week and the fighting has begun between the parents. His mom wants to do an engagment party and my mom wants to do one too. Both parties want to do immediate family only. Am I selfish that I want my friends there too? I thought traditionally that the mother of the bride does the engagment party. I want to say to both of them give us the money you would spend on a party and just combine it into what we really want. Am I wrong?

Espo22 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 06:57 PM

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Posted by Lisafer1973

Ok so I am engaged less then a week and the fighting has begun between the parents. His mom wants to do an engagment party and my mom wants to do one too. Both parties want to do immediate family only. Am I selfish that I want my friends there too? I thought traditionally that the mother of the bride does the engagment party. I want to say to both of them give us the money you would spend on a party and just combine it into what we really want. Am I wrong?

Well you should let both parents know that the bridal party really should be invited to the engagement party, kinda weird if they weren't. So do both immediate family and just close friends or just bridal party.

Why don't they do the party together. You're all gonna be family and have to get used to it.

Lisafer1973 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 07:07 PM

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Ok good thank you someone else on the same page as me!!!

Espo22 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 07:09 PM

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Posted by Lisafer1973

Ok good thank you someone else on the same page as me!!!

to convince them even more tell them you want to announce your bp at the e-party which is what alot of people do.

empressdani Posted: Aug 16, 2007 07:13 PM

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Posted by Espo22

Posted by Lisafer1973

Ok so I am engaged less then a week and the fighting has begun between the parents. His mom wants to do an engagment party and my mom wants to do one too. Both parties want to do immediate family only. Am I selfish that I want my friends there too? I thought traditionally that the mother of the bride does the engagment party. I want to say to both of them give us the money you would spend on a party and just combine it into what we really want. Am I wrong?

Well you should let both parents know that the bridal party really should be invited to the engagement party, kinda weird if they weren't. So do both immediate family and just close friends or just bridal party.

Why don't they do the party together. You're all gonna be family and have to get used to it.

totally agree with you both.

if they are both willing to throw the eparty why not combine the resources and have a great gathering?

lonal Posted: Aug 16, 2007 08:25 PM

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If it's a party for you, shouldnt you be able to invite who you want? Also, are the families willing to throw it together so you have one from both sides? If not, traditionally, it is the brides family that throws it. Good luck!

little34 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 08:57 PM

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I would think that would be the easiest way to do it since they both want to throw it... but they might want a say in where it is and all that... I dont think you are wrong for wanting friends there.. FMIL wanted us to do a family only e-party but we said no way (and she didn't help pay for it so she really can't say anything) but I think you should go out to lunch with both moms and work something out and if not then suggest they both pay and you set it up.

Good luck..

Word of advice...have FH talk to his parents when it comes to money and stuff like that and you deal with your parents... it is just easier that way

tricia3381 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 09:10 PM

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most of the E-parties i have been to were just family and the only friends invited were the BP. but then again its ur party so if u want ur friends there then i say u should have them there. what about both families paying for ONE party together and u and fh paying for any friends u want to invite?

DiamondPipa Posted: Aug 16, 2007 09:24 PM

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There is no rule for engagement parties. My mom is throwing my engagement party but it's a dinner. No friends are invited!

bride2b24 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 09:26 PM

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cant they both chip in for the guest list that you adn fh agree on ???

Lisafer1973 Posted: Aug 16, 2007 10:38 PM

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Thanks for the advise it is getting bad already! I saw you had your wedding at Leonard's this is where I want my reception. I am going to go down ther next week to meet with the BM. What did you think? Was it worth it???? Thanks!!

Lisa

PS your pics are awesome!!!