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Eparty VENT!!!!

eck739 Posted:

Eparty VENT!!!!

So the eparty is just our immediate families (who have not met yet BTW) and our wedding party. We extended the invite to my stepfathers cousin becuase they have always been close like brothers. Well the cousin's wife opened her mouth to her sister in law who did not get an invite because she is not immediate family nor is she close to my stepfather the way her brother is.

So the cousin's wife calls my mother and says that she accidently slipped and opened her mouth yadda yadda so my mom says that the party is for immed family only and that is why her SIL wasnt invited.

Two weeks go by and now my stepfather gets a call at work yesterday from his cousin saying that he doesnt know what to do cause he is in the middle of this whole thing since his sister wasnt invited. My stepfathers says the same thing that this is who I chose to invite and why.

So now I am furious and text the cousins wife saying that this party is being thrown by my fiance and I so please adress me in the future, not my parents. I explain the whole thing AGAIN about how its for immediate family and that they were invited bc they have been in our lives being close to my stepdad.

Well I get an email at 1130 last night from my stepdads cousin telling me that he respects my decision and knows it is hard to plan and make decisions for parties and he hopes that I respect his decision to no longer attend the party. He says that he struggles with the situation and hopes that at my wedding his whol family can be together to help me celebrate and dance. Then goes on to say that he didnt know that I planned the party and had he known he wouldnt have gone to my parents but he does not appreciate being reprimanded and requests that I never speak to him or his wife like that again in that manner.

ARE YOU KIDDING ME!?!?! Who are you to second guess or question my guestlist for anything. Now his poor sister probably thinks that I didnt intend to invite her to my wedding which I DO but not the intimate engagement party. I went out of my way to make him and his wife feel like our immediate family and this is what I get?

I am glad they arent coming and if I had it my way I wouldnt even invite them to the wedding anymore but I know my parents wont like that.

Am I crazy here or is this rediculious?? I feel like I am in High School...this is so stupid.
LindsaylovesJustin Posted:

Re: Eparty VENT!!!!

No, you are not ridiculous. I would just invite the SIL regardless though... let him know it was never your intention to feel left out but since you and FH families have never met you wanted to keep it as intimate as possible to allow them time to get to know eachother better before the wedding.

I would say that your frustration stems from the fact that you would not want the SIL to feel left out, but that it is important to give your FH parents a fair chance to meet your immediate family without having to cater to too many other people.

HTH Good luck!
bride2be2012 Posted:

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If there is one thing I have learned so far in the planning process it's this - you need to do what's best for you and FH because everyone will do what's best for themselves.

You shouldn't feel obligated to invite the sister if you don't want to - that's the beauty of being able to make your own decision.

I'm sorry that the cousin and wife are giving you problems, but maybe take this as a sign that you are better off not having them there so you can enjoy your party with FH as your families get to know each other.

Good luck!!!
rosatemp Posted:

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Posted by bride2be2012

If there is one thing I have learned so far in the planning process it's this - you need to do what's best for you and FH because everyone will do what's best for themselves.

You shouldn't feel obligated to invite the sister if you don't want to - that's the beauty of being able to make your own decision.

I'm sorry that the cousin and wife are giving you problems, but maybe take this as a sign that you are better off not having them there so you can enjoy your party with FH as your families get to know each other.

Good luck!!!



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eck739 Posted:

Re: Eparty VENT!!!!

unreal right....thanks ladies....at least I know it happens to everyone....what a pain in the arrrrse.

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