Etiquette Question

reneepinto Posted: Jul 13, 2007 01:03 PM

Etiquette Question

I noticed that a lot of brides have different ideas for how to take care of the cards that guests bring with money as a gift such as the bird cages, card boxes and money purses, ect.

Is there any rules of etiquette that say which is preferred? I really couldn't find any information. My parents are of the opinion that when I go to each table I should personally take the card.

I almost feel like it is going to be awkward doing that.

Any advice girls!!!

Aug06 Posted: Jul 13, 2007 01:09 PM

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I don't really know either, but my mom said the same thing so I am planning on visiting each table and taking the card personally. I think I'll put it in a card box afterwards.

Katie&Chris2006 Posted: Jul 13, 2007 01:11 PM

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You will find that people will hand them to you throughout the night, whether you want to or not. Not sure what etiquette says, but it is also a good idea to have something to put them in after the fact. We had both happen - people handing them to us and people just putting in the box directly.

Kara and Todd Posted: Jul 13, 2007 01:17 PM

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I completely agree with your parents.

Even at weddings with card boxes, I feel cards should be handed directly to the bride and groom.

reneepinto Posted: Jul 13, 2007 01:23 PM

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Thanks everyone!!! I appreciate the advice!

Enjoy your weekends

ant n tilde Posted: Jul 13, 2007 01:28 PM

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Posted by Kara and Todd

I completely agree with your parents.

Even at weddings with card boxes, I feel cards should be handed directly to the bride and groom.

ITA!

cindyandkevin Posted: Jul 13, 2007 02:12 PM

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We had both. We went around to each table to say hello and many of our guests handed us cards. Some put them in the card box. I actually preferred them to just put them in the card box, I felt like a banker walking around 'collecting'!! Besides, I worked hard on making the card box and I wanted everyone to see it!! I always put the card in the box, and I try to do so right away so I don't forget or nothing spills on it while I wait for the B&G to make their rounds.

DrWho Posted: Jul 13, 2007 02:16 PM

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As a guest, I generally prefer to put the card in the box rather than holding it. I just figured everyone used the box - ---
maybe I should get a bag......dang it.

Mici n KC Posted: Jul 13, 2007 02:25 PM

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I know what you mean, I feel weird having something as if your expecting it. Everyone knows you'll get stuff at weddings and you're trying to create a safe place to put them. My mom keeps telling him how tacky it is when the bride and groom walk around to greet everyone and they're carrying that bag like a collection bag I mean it makes sense for the bride to carry it because people will give them cards when they go around but it's hysterical they way she explains it!

SusiBtoM Posted: Jul 13, 2007 02:49 PM

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Posted by Kara and Todd

I completely agree with your parents.

Even at weddings with card boxes, I feel cards should be handed directly to the bride and groom.

I agree. The card box or birdcage should be for our convenience, not for the guests to use.
Giving a gift is a personal thing, and the giver should recerive a few words of thanks from the recipient.

tbone66 Posted: Jul 13, 2007 04:30 PM

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I think the proper thing is to give the card directly to either the bride or groom. However, I do not plan on doing the rounds around the tables as it will take up the whole wedding!